Have you ever had a man ask why you care so much about what others think? And then found yourself at a loss for how to explain why it matters so deeply? There’s a reason women tend to fixate on others’ opinions, and it’s not simply a lack of confidence or insecurity.

This week, I’m diving into why this preoccupation with others’ opinions is so powerful for women—and why it’s not silly or superficial to acknowledge its hold over us. You'll hear the first step in breaking free from this pattern (hint: it isn’t to judge ourselves) and how to spot the impossible, contradictory standards women are taught to meet.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/395

Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you?

The bad news is that making everyone happy and controlling what they think about you is literally impossible to accomplish and you will die trying! Sorry, but it’s true.

The good news is you can actually stop trying to manage what everyone else thinks about you at every moment … and feel better about yourself than you ever have before.

That’s what I’m here to teach you in my brand new workshop: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think.

When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ET

Cost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.)

(A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.)

Click here to save your spot: unfuckyourbrain.com/caring/utm_source=podcast

Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in your stomach—the one that says, “There’s no point in trying because nothing will ever change”? That’s hopelessness, and it’s one of the most dangerous emotional states because it paralyzes us and keeps us stuck. It’s also one of the most deceptive thought patterns your brain can offer you.

This week, I’m breaking down why hopelessness is fundamentally a lie. When your brain tells you nothing will ever change, it’s making a claim it can’t possibly back up. Tune in to learn how to combat these thoughts and start embracing the reality that change is always possible—even when it feels like it isn’t.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/394

Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren’t just in your head—they’re physical responses from your nervous system reacting to perceived threats.

In today’s episode, I’m joined by somatic-based personal trainer Emily Decker to discuss how our bodies process information and why so many of us get stuck in cycles of anxiety and doom-scrolling. We explore the fascinating connection between our nervous system and the constant barrage of alarming headlines, plus why our bodies can’t distinguish between real physical danger and the emotional stress we get from media consumption.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/393

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Struggling to make progress on your goals or facing anxiety in relationships? It could be because your brain has wrongly connected your survival to things that aren't actually life-threatening. In this new free training, Safety is an Inside Job, I’m teaching you how to disconnect those patterns and create lasting change. Join me on May 14 for this interactive session—sign up here: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/safety-training

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Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhelmed, we often assume our perspective is the only “correct” one. This rigidity creates tension in relationships, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. Sound familiar?

In this episode, I’m revisiting a concept I call “You Are Not The Reference Point.” The key is realizing that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors aren’t the standard by which everyone else should be measured. When we allow space for others’ perspectives, we open the door to better communication, greater acceptance, and less judgment. It’s a game-changer for any relationship!

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/392

After coaching thousands of women (and learning a lot from my own journey), I’ve realized that our brains are really good at focusing on what we haven’t yet accomplished, while completely glossing over what we have. That’s why it’s crucial to actively look for evidence of growth and progress.

In this episode, I’m sharing the three biggest insights I gained during my 43rd year: how to handle differences of opinion in relationships without being triggered, how to make decisions even when you don’t have all the answers, and why no single achievement will change your life overnight. Tune in to hear how embracing the highs and lows of life can teach us everything we need to know about self-trust, decision-making, and staying grounded in uncertainty.

For full show notes, transcript, and more information, go to: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/391

Is your brain stuck replaying the same unhelpful thoughts on a loop? You’re not broken—your brain is just doing what it’s been trained to do: cling to old stories, even when they’re holding you back. In this episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite coaching tools that can break that loop instantly. It’s simple, powerful, and might just change how you see everything—from your relationships to your goals to how you think about yourself.

Find the full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/390

What does it really mean to be extraordinary—and why does it feel so uncomfortable to even ask that question? In this week’s episode, I’m unpacking the way society trains women and marginalized people to fear their own greatness. We’re taught that wanting more—more impact, more growth, more self-expression—is selfish or arrogant. And in times like these, when the world feels like it’s sliding backward, that message gets even louder: stay quiet, don’t make waves, be content with “good enough.”

But now is exactly when we need to lean into our power. Tune in to learn why being extraordinary has nothing to do with fame or visibility—and everything to do with how deeply you commit to your values, your purpose, and your own full expression.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/389