Emotions are complex internal experiences that provide valuable information about our values and responses to situations, yet many of us struggle to manage them effectively.

• Emotions are subjective experiences that vary from person to person
• Children experience emotions intensely because they lack adult context and understanding of time
• Anger often masks more vulnerable feelings like fear, sadness, or rejection
• Many adults struggle with emotions because they never learned co-regulation in childhood
• Recognizing separation between yourself and others helps tolerate their distress
• You can express emotions without acting on them through journaling or talking
• Using visualization techniques like "containers" can help manage overwhelming feelings
• Focusing on connection rather than compliance builds better relationships with children
• Teaching emotional intelligence means validating feelings while setting boundaries on behaviors
• Being okay while others are distressed is a powerful skill in any relationship

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We explore imposter syndrome and why so many people feel like frauds despite evidence of their competence and capabilities.

• Defining imposter syndrome as feeling like you don't deserve your position or achievements
• How childhood experiences of conditional approval or criticism create adult insecurity
• Understanding "parts work" and how child parts of ourselves can feel triggered in adult settings
• The connection between imposter syndrome and perfectionism
• Time orientation exercises to reconnect with your adult competence
• Finding and embodying "mastery resources" from times you felt confident
• How clarifying personal values helps build authentic self-trust
• Recognizing that even experts don't have all the answers
• Using affirmations to gradually rebuild confidence and self-belief
• The power of projecting confidence even when you don't fully feel it

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We explore the science behind why human connection is essential for survival, from attachment theory to why our brains respond so profoundly to face-to-face interaction. Loneliness isn't simply being alone but a profound feeling of disconnection that can persist even when surrounded by others.

• Connection is crucial for safety and releases positive neurochemicals in our brains
• Attachment theory explains our innate survival need to connect with caregivers
• Digital connections don't activate the same neural networks as face-to-face interactions
• Spending just 15 minutes daily in meaningful connection can transform relationships
• We often defend against connection due to past experiences of rejection or pain
• Modern society facilitates isolation through remote work, delivery services, and digital communication
• Low-stakes practice like talking to service workers helps build connection skills
• Connection to ourselves is the foundation for connecting with others
• Repairing disconnected relationships requires persistence through initial discomfort

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Sleep affects nearly every aspect of our lives, yet many of us struggle to understand why we can't fall asleep, stay asleep, or feel rested in the morning. We explore how childhood patterns, lifestyle habits, and environmental factors impact our sleep quality and offer practical solutions for better rest.

• Various types of sleep issues including trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, and early morning awakening
• How caffeine creates a vicious cycle that worsens sleep problems, especially as we age
• The negative impact of screens before bed on melatonin production and sleep quality
• Why consistency in sleep schedules is crucial for regulating our body's internal clock
• Cognitive patterns that create anxiety around sleep and how to challenge negative thoughts
• Environmental factors like room temperature (ideally 67°F) that promote better sleep
• The value of taking breaks throughout the day to practice calming your nervous system
• Why long-term solutions like CBT for insomnia work better than quick fixes

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Join us for an engaging exploration of why so many of us carry the weight of seriousness without realizing its impact on our lives. In our latest episode, we dive deep into the reasons behind our reluctance to laugh, unraveling how childhood experiences shape our perceptions of humor. Gain insights into the critical role laughter plays not just in enhancing our mood but also in promoting connections, healing, and overall well-being.

We tackle the barriers that prevent us from embracing humor, including anxiety, societal expectations, and deep-seated fears of vulnerability. Equipped with practical strategies, we guide you on how to invite laughter back into your daily life—whether it's through funny videos, light-hearted games, or simply learning to be silly again. Discover how mindfulness practices can facilitate this journey, assisting you in letting go of the need to take everything so seriously.

This episode is not just about understanding but about fostering resilience and joy in the face of life's challenges. Will you join us in recognizing that it's perfectly okay to find moments of laughter amidst the chaos? Tune in, and let's rediscover the lighter side of life together! Don’t forget to subscribe, share your thoughts, and connect with us afterward!

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Ever wondered why it's so hard to let go of that old sweater or those dusty collectibles? Join us as we unravel the emotional intricacies of our attachment to possessions. Through personal stories, we explore how childhood experiences and challenging financial times shape our relationships with stuff. Hear about my mother's journey from chaos to minimalism, and learn how conditions like ADHD and depression can impact organizational skills. Together, we'll uncover the underlying guilt and procrastination tied to clutter and how an abundance mindset can transform your life.

Our conversation goes deeper, examining how hoarding can be a manifestation of unresolved trauma and emotional distress. Discover how letting go is more than just tidying up—it's a process that may require compassion, therapy, or even medication. We discuss practical ways to support loved ones struggling with these issues and emphasize teaching children the importance of mindfulness and executive functioning skills early on. By fostering understanding and self-compassion, we can navigate these emotional layers more effectively, leading to healthier relationships with our belongings.

Finally, we introduce the transformative power of mindfulness in organizing our lives. Learn how simple practices, like engaging your senses during routine tasks, can lead to intentional decision-making and a more fulfilling existence. We offer actionable tips to incorporate mindfulness seamlessly into your everyday routine, helping you break free from autopilot and reducing stress. As we wrap up, we extend our gratitude to you, our listeners, for supporting "Why Am I Like This" and invite you to continue this journey with us by sharing, rating, and reviewing our podcast.

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Self-care can be challenging and often feels selfish, yet it is a crucial component of well-being. We explore the reasons behind our reluctance to prioritize ourselves, looking into childhood influences, societal pressures, and the importance of cultivating supportive networks.

• Discussing the difficulties of prioritizing self-care
• The connection between self-care and burnout
• Importance of modeling self-care for others
• Exploring barriers to self-care rooted in childhood
• Practical tips for integrating self-care into daily life
• The significance of asking for help and building support networks
• Balancing personal commitments with self-care practices
• Encouraging grace and forgiveness in self-care journeys

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This show is sponsored by:

Core Self

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Benavieri Counseling & Coaching
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What drives us to try and fix everything around us? Join trauma therapist Laura Wood and psychiatric nurse practitioner Michaela Beaver as they unravel the complex web of motivations behind our relentless need to solve every problem. Is it a quest for control, an intolerance for imperfection, or a sneaky way to sidestep our personal issues? Together, they explore how chaotic childhoods can lead to seeking comfort in chaos, and how this shapes our adult interactions and reactions.

Laura and Michaela dive into the learned behaviors from our upbringing, questioning the social belief that constant worry equals preparedness. They shine a light on the difference between healthy planning and overactive anxiety. By recognizing when our nervous systems are unnecessarily on high alert, we can learn to cultivate a sense of safety without feeling compelled to fix every single issue. Finding that sweet spot between calmness and alertness is key to navigating life without succumbing to anxiety or avoidance.

The duo also tackles the art of letting go. Why do we often cling to perfectionism and the need for achievement? They discuss how childhood experiences might have planted these seeds, driving us to feel indispensable to be valued. The conversation offers practical strategies to identify which problems are truly urgent and how to conserve energy by letting smaller issues slide. Learn how embracing your inherent value, beyond achievements, can break the cycle of high-functioning anxiety and burnout, allowing a more relaxed, regulated state of mind.

Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation:
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This show is sponsored by:

Core Self

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Benavieri Counseling & Coaching
www.benavieri.com

Active Healing Psychiatric Services
www.activehealingpsych.com