Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world. E109: The Invitation That Never Came

Have you ever sat by the window of your own life, waiting for an invitation that never arrived? In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we explore the ache of being left out, forgotten, or deliberately uninvited—whether it was a birthday party, a family gathering, or just the simple sense of being wanted.

Through the lens of Borderline in Wonderland, we unravel how exclusion doesn’t always look dramatic—sometimes it’s silent. Sometimes it’s casual. And sometimes, it cuts the deepest. We dive into:

• The emotional fallout of being overlooked or deliberately left out
• Rejection sensitivity and its roots in childhood neglect or invalidation
• How neurodivergence and BPD can make small exclusions feel seismic
• The stories we tell ourselves when no one saves us a seat

And most importantly, we ask:

What does healing look like when you were never invited to begin with?

Because sometimes, the loudest heartbreak is the party you were never meant to attend.

Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E108: Please Like Me, Please Approve Me

In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we sit with the aching need for approval—the quiet (or not-so-quiet) plea so many of us with BPD carry: Please like me. Please tell me I’m enough.

Whether it shows up as people-pleasing at work, craving praise from authority figures, or feeling crushed by neutral feedback, this episode unpacks the deep longing for validation that can shape our self-worth.

We’ll explore where this need comes from, how it plays out in professional and personal spaces, and how to begin untangling our value from others’ approval—without shaming ourselves for wanting connection.

Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E107: Off With Her Head! – Fear of Mistakes at Work

In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we face the Queen of Hearts inside our own heads—the one who screams “Off with her head!” at every tiny mistake.

“Fear of Mistakes at Work” dives into the paralyzing anxiety many of us with BPD feel in professional settings, where even small slip-ups can feel catastrophic.

Whether it’s over-apologizing, spiraling after feedback, or obsessing over being “perfect,” this episode unpacks the emotional weight we carry just trying to avoid messing up.

Join us as we talk about the roots of this fear, how it ties to shame and rejection sensitivity, and how to build self-trust in the face of imperfection.