Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world. E109: The Invitation That Never Came

Have you ever sat by the window of your own life, waiting for an invitation that never arrived? In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we explore the ache of being left out, forgotten, or deliberately uninvited—whether it was a birthday party, a family gathering, or just the simple sense of being wanted.

Through the lens of Borderline in Wonderland, we unravel how exclusion doesn’t always look dramatic—sometimes it’s silent. Sometimes it’s casual. And sometimes, it cuts the deepest. We dive into:

• The emotional fallout of being overlooked or deliberately left out
• Rejection sensitivity and its roots in childhood neglect or invalidation
• How neurodivergence and BPD can make small exclusions feel seismic
• The stories we tell ourselves when no one saves us a seat

And most importantly, we ask:

What does healing look like when you were never invited to begin with?

Because sometimes, the loudest heartbreak is the party you were never meant to attend.

Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E108: Please Like Me, Please Approve Me

In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we sit with the aching need for approval—the quiet (or not-so-quiet) plea so many of us with BPD carry: Please like me. Please tell me I’m enough.

Whether it shows up as people-pleasing at work, craving praise from authority figures, or feeling crushed by neutral feedback, this episode unpacks the deep longing for validation that can shape our self-worth.

We’ll explore where this need comes from, how it plays out in professional and personal spaces, and how to begin untangling our value from others’ approval—without shaming ourselves for wanting connection.

Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E107: Off With Her Head! – Fear of Mistakes at Work

In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we face the Queen of Hearts inside our own heads—the one who screams “Off with her head!” at every tiny mistake.

“Fear of Mistakes at Work” dives into the paralyzing anxiety many of us with BPD feel in professional settings, where even small slip-ups can feel catastrophic.

Whether it’s over-apologizing, spiraling after feedback, or obsessing over being “perfect,” this episode unpacks the emotional weight we carry just trying to avoid messing up.

Join us as we talk about the roots of this fear, how it ties to shame and rejection sensitivity, and how to build self-trust in the face of imperfection.

Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E106 Paper Crown Syndrome: Feeling Like a Fraud in a Real Job

In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we explore the fragile weight of success that doesn’t feel real. “Paper Crown Syndrome” captures the imposter syndrome many of us with BPD carry—sitting at our desks, meeting expectations, maybe even getting praise… but inside, we feel like a kid playing dress-up in a grown-up’s job.

We’ll dig into why achievement feels uncomfortable, how self-doubt sneaks in no matter how capable we are, and why we’re so quick to believe we don’t belong.

This episode is a gentle reminder that just because the crown feels like paper doesn’t mean it isn’t earned.

Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E105: Stitching Back Together After Work

In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we explore the quiet, often invisible task of putting yourself back together after a day on the clock.

“Stitching Back Together After Work” dives into the emotional unraveling that can happen when you’ve spent all day masking, managing, and holding it together—only to come home feeling frayed, scattered, or numb.

For those with BPD, the transition from work mode to self can feel like falling apart in slow motion.

This episode offers space to name that exhaustion, validate the crash, and begin the gentle process of reassembling your emotional pieces with care, not shame.

Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E104: Echo Alice: Watching Yourself Play the Role

In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we meet Echo Alice—the version of ourselves who smiles, nods, and performs the part while feeling miles away inside.

“Echo Alice” explores the eerie experience of depersonalization, where life starts to feel like a performance and you’re stuck watching yourself from behind the curtain.

For those with BPD, this disconnect can feel like a survival strategy: becoming who others expect, while losing sight of who you really are. Join us as we unravel the pressure to perform, the exhaustion of being everything to everyone, and what it might look like to step back into authenticity—one small truth at a time.

Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E103: The Disappearing Desk: Losing Time and Presence at Work

In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we sit at the disappearing desk—the place where time slips, focus fades, and your body’s at work, but your mind is far, far away.

Whether it’s zoning out in meetings, forgetting tasks you swore you finished, or feeling like you’re watching yourself from a distance, this episode explores the surreal experience of dissociation and emotional disconnection in professional spaces.

With BPD, staying present at work isn’t always about motivation—it’s about managing overwhelm, fragmentation, and survival mode.

Let’s talk about the invisible challenges and rediscover small ways to stay grounded, even when the desk starts to vanish.

Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E102: Tea with Ghosts: Going Through the Motions

In this haunting episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we pour a cup of tea and sit with the quiet, hollow feeling of going through the motions.

“Tea with Ghosts” explores the dissociation, numbness, and emotional absence that can creep in with BPD—when you’re doing all the right things on the outside, but inside, it’s like no one’s home.

It’s showing up to life like a guest at your own tea party, smiling politely while feeling like a ghost at the table.

Together, we’ll name this fog, explore where it comes from, and gently ask what it’s protecting us from—because even ghosts have stories worth hearing.