In the 100th episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore the viral “We Do Not Care Club” created by Melani Sanders — a humorous and healing movement that’s resonating deeply with women everywhere. Through an EMDR lens, we break down why this message feels so good in the body, especially for women navigating burnout, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and midlife transitions like perimenopause and menopause.

We learn how EMDR therapy helps clients move from negative self-beliefs (“I have to be perfect,” “It’s my fault”) to deep somatic neutrality — the kind of empowered calm that fuels true healing and lasting transformation. We also unpack how society’s expectations, gendered emotional labor, and unspoken pressures on women intersect with hormonal shifts, and why so many women are finally saying: We do not care.

Whether you're deep in midlife or just beginning to question the stories you’ve been told, this episode offers education, validation, and a call to reclaim your own nervous system and voice — one belief at a time.

This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.

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With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we dive into a transformational topic: women and urges—and how honoring our body's messages can radically shift how we live, love, and lead.

We explore why so many women are disconnected from their intuition, bodies, and desires, often due to lifelong social conditioning, trauma, and internalized shame. Through the lens of EMDR therapy and somatic healing, Kambria Evans shares how recognizing and following a “full-body yes” (and saying no to a “full-body no”) can become a revolutionary act of self-love.

• The importance of somatic awareness and listening to your body's urges
• How EMDR therapy can help process and play out suppressed parts safely
• The role of trauma, societal programming, and patriarchal norms in urge repression
• Why midlife can spark a crisis—or awakening—of long-ignored parts of self
• The difference between reactive choices and intentional decisions around urges
• How urge exploration can reduce burnout, autoimmune issues, and chronic stress
• A step-by-step invitation for therapists and non-therapists to practice urge awareness

Whether you're a therapist, a woman in midlife, or someone exploring deeper emotional work, this episode will validate your inner knowing and help you return to the wisdom of your body.

Your urges aren’t problems—they're messages. What happens if you actually listen?

The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.

Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources

Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.

With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore why so many women come to therapy feeling confused, responsible for others, and disconnected from their inner guidance system. The focus? Two of the most misunderstood emotions in healing work: anger and disgust. Drawing from experience in EMDR and Brainspotting, we discuss how women are socialized to suppress anger and collapse into sadness—ultimately cutting themselves off from their internal safety systems. But when anger is reframed as action energy, and disgust as the clarity to distance from harm, everything changes. This is especially true when leaving narcissistic, abusive relationships.

• Why anger is essential for trauma recovery and boundary setting
• How disgust helps women see unsafe, narcissistic people and systems clearly
• What it means to be Self-led and own your positive core beliefs
• The impact of patriarchal programming on emotional expression
• How therapists can help women reclaim emotional safety and power

Whether you're a therapist, survivor, or someone doing deep inner work, this episode will challenge old narratives and offer a transformative framework for healing.

The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.

Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources

Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.

With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this thought-provoking episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we continue on our empowering series, Why Women Go to Therapy, by diving deep into the transformative concept of parts work. Listen as we unpack how women develop internal “parts” throughout their lives—often in response to external pressures, trauma, or survival needs—and how these parts, though created with good intentions, can become outdated and energy-draining over time.

Using relatable metaphors, personal stories, and clinical insight, we highlight how understanding and honoring these parts can free women from perfectionism, caretaking burnout, body shame, and more. Drawing from modalities like Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, and Brainspotting to explain how therapy helps women reclaim their energy, re-author old narratives, and reconnect with their authentic Self—free from internalized societal messaging.

• Women develop different “parts” over time—coping mechanisms shaped by experiences, trauma, and social conditioning.
  
• These parts aren’t bad; they were created to help—but many are now outdated and draining.
  
• You have the power to identify, reassign, or retire these parts—like a CEO managing a team.
  
• Much of what feels like your inner voice is actually internalized messaging from society, not your true Self.
  
• Therapy helps you separate who you really are from the parts you’ve had to become.
  
• Modalities like EMDR, IFS, and Brainspotting help access, heal, and integrate parts.
  
• You are not your anxiety or depression—you have parts that feel anxious or depressed.
• Rewriting these inner narratives brings clarity, freedom, and energy back to your system!

The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.

Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources

Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.

With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this powerful episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we dive deep into the transformative world of Brainspotting—a brain-based, somatic therapy that helps access and heal trauma, especially the kind stored before we even had language. Kambria shares her surprising journey from EMDR skeptic to Brainspotting advocate, explaining how this technique—developed by Dr. David Grand—uses eye position to access “trauma spots” and “resource spots” in the brain. Through personal insight, clinical expertise, and rich storytelling, we outline why brainspotting can be especially profound for women navigating complex trauma, patriarchal programming, and early childhood wounds.

1) The difference between EMDR and Brainspotting

2) How Brainspotting reaches preverbal memory networks

3) Why talk therapy may be “speaking gibberish” to younger parts of self

4) The profound shifts we experience personally through Brainspotting

5) Why combining EMDR + Brainspotting is a game-changer for therapists and clients alike

If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy, overwhelmed by the pace of healing, or disconnected from your body’s wisdom—this episode is your invitation to explore something radically different!

The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.

Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources

Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.

With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

In this episode, we explore why EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is particularly powerful for women and how it serves not just as a healing tool, but as a form of personal and social revolution. Discussion on how EMDR helps clients target not only trauma and disturbing memories but also deeply embedded societal programming around safety, power, control, and worth. For women, many of these beliefs are tied to patriarchal, narcissistic structures that have historically denied them autonomy and value. EMDR offers a path to reclaim those beliefs by helping women internalize new, positive narratives in both mind and body.

Key themes include:

1) Why traditional diagnoses like anxiety and depression often miss the bigger picture: these symptoms may be responses to oppressive environments, not personal defects.

2) How brain-based therapies like EMDR and Brainspotting work differently than talk therapy by including body-based processing and belief reprogramming.

3) The impact of generational trauma: many women carry survival strategies taught by mothers and grandmothers who lived with fewer rights and opportunities.

4) The feminist and activist lens of EMDR: reprogramming beliefs like “I am safe” or “I have power” is a radical act in a society that often withholds those truths from women.

5) Empowerment beyond trauma: Women aren’t just healing pain—they’re expanding into strength, clarity, and agency.

The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.

Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources

Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.

With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.

Have you ever asked yourself, “Am I good enough?” If so, you’re not alone. In this episode of the Zero Disturbance Podcast, we deep dive into this question, exploring how so many women struggle with self-doubt and the journey to reclaim their inherent worth.

Every woman is born with her own unique goodness, and that worth is non-negotiable. Despite the external pressures, criticisms, and messages we encounter throughout life, our value remains constant. In this empowering episode, Kambria challenges the idea of seeking validation from others and instead encourages us to embrace our own value system—one that is free from societal standards and rooted in our true selves.

We explore how many of these feelings of inadequacy are formed early in life—often before we’re five years old—and how they can be reprogrammed through therapy. Releasing the need to prove our worth and embracing self-compassion allows us to heal from feelings of shame and inadequacy.

The core message? Your goodness belongs to you, and always has. Anyone who tries to confuse that is trying to control or objectify you.

We hope to inspire listeners to build their own value systems, one that’s grounded in their true selves and impervious to the judgment of others. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt or felt like you were never enough, this episode is packed with powerful insights on how to move past those limiting beliefs and confidently live in your truth.

The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.

1. The therapeutic journey of reclaiming your inherent goodness and understanding how external influences have shaped the way women perceive themselves.

2. How every woman is born with her own inherent goodness. Despite the pressures and messages, we receive throughout life, our worth is non-negotiable and always belongs to us.

3. Women are often conditioned to seek validation and approval from others, but it's essential to embrace our own value system, rather than relying on someone else's standards of "good enough."

4. How early negative beliefs about goodness are formed, and how these beliefs can be reprogrammed through therapy to help women move past feelings of shame, defectiveness, and inadequacy.

5. The power of surrender—letting go of the need to prove our worth and choosing instead to embrace our goodness and self-worth as we are.

6. How to build our own value system, rooted in their true selves, which helps us develop a strong sense of self that is impervious to external judgment.

Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy or coaching on your terms? If you appreciated this episode, you wont want to miss out on The Client Workbook + supporting videos! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/client-workbook

We also offer free resources for clients and therapists! https://www.zerodisturbance.com/free-resources

Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources for designing high-value offers in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle.

With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.