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Men Who Can't Love

How to Recognize a Commitmentphobic Man Before He Breaks Your Heart

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Men Who Can't Love

By: Julia Sokol, Steven Carter
Narrated by: Kevin Young
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The million-copy New York Times best seller and classic relationship book.

Featured on Oprah and Sally Jesse Raphael, this definitive look at the dynamics of male-female communication gets to the heart of the all-too-common phenomenon: women who are ready and willing to commit, and men who back off just as the relationship moves toward the next level.

This audiobook can help you:

  • Recognize early warning signs of the commitmentphobic man
  • Determine the extent of his fears - and his willingness to change
  • Analyze your own role in the situation
  • Avoid unnecessary stress and heartache

©1987, 1996 Steven Carter and Julia Sokol Coopersmith (P)2012 Audible, Inc.
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Steven Carter and Julia Sokol's seminal relationship book offers a thorough, penetrating examination of the complex behavior and psychology of commitment-phobic males who, as stated in the book, can go from "attentive and caring to distant and hurtful for apparent reason".

Kevin Young's accomplished, measured performance reflects the high esteem with which these groundbreaking interviews and case studies are held in the field of relationship therapy, and his genial, conversational tone keeps the listener interested throughout this thought-provoking work.

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Perfectly described my situation

I purchased the book & became so intrigued by its context I couldn't put it down. That's when I looked into audio version & am I glad I did.
I'd love it even more if I could gift this to a few men in my life. I felt I was going crazy with different emotions, mixed signals, I even broke up with my boyfriend of 6 yrs. when my friend of 20+ yrs. strongly pursued me....
Not realizing he's commitment phobic. I wish I'd know sooner. Now our friendship has suffered tremendously, I regret getting involved with him. Honestly this. Book was a huge and complete eye opener. I'm going to follow my instincts and to & pay attentions to a man's behavior patterns, their attitude, and their engagement.
Definitely recommend this to women out their going through a relationship where you feel your giving more than you are receiving, allowing a man to disappear and reappear with no questions asked, any woman feeling like she's always walking on egg shells afraid to say anything when mistreated, a guy that never called you back when he said he would. A guy that said he'd change & beg for another opportunity. Even someone going through a breakup. It will definitely give you fulfillment after listening/reading this book that we the women did nothing wrong. Loved it. Now want to get into reading "he's afraid, she's afraid "...

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Aha moment!

This book is an eye opener! Makes you do a self evaluation of your relationship and yourself. Thank you!

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a must read for those that fall 4 Mr.unavailable

loved it, hit really close to home , was able to relate and reflect from my own experiences

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LIFE CHANGING!!

This book opened my eyes, mind and soul, but it also broke my heart. I didn’t even know that men like that existed, yet I have been with one like that for 7 long years. While listening to this book, I had mixed emotions—I was in denial, Then I was hurt, then I wanted to cry because I felt played. It was like this book was written about the man I have been with. Everything described him 100%. How can I be so naive? Now I understand many things he told me before—that I was too good for him, that he loved me, but when he left my house I didn’t hear from him for days, sometimes weeks. So now that I learned all of this, I have the tools and the strength to end it and end it for good. To the writers of this book THANK YOU! Know that you have saved a life. Please keep writing. Because of you, I know now the do’s and don’t’s and will fight with all my power with the wisdom you both gave me.
Forever grateful,
Lucia.

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One of the very best.

For me, the most helpful narrative of what unfolds in the mind of those who pull sudden u-turns on commitment, love and loyalty. And how profoundly disturbing it is to the person left wondering “what on earth happened”to the strong bond, trust and connection they believed would last forever.

I’ve listened numerous times, especially chapter nine. Thank you from the bottom of my healing heart.

JL,
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Feel like hell... but this gave me hope

I just realized this really describes my last 6 years. I made it through all the stages to the very end. Depressed, anxiety through the roof, wild insomnia in past 4 to 5 months. What a ride! like a pendulim, total comfort and support to questioning my sanity and wrong doing. So ashamed of myself for staying for so long. So done with it. Great advice and explanation of what is happening on both sides of the equation. Ended said relationship today. Feel like I have some very useful information about moving past this.

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Lifesaver!!

15 unique words it's a good book it's about my boyfriend I learned a lot I'm going to break up with him this will be a lifesaver he's making my life miserable

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depressing

listening in hopes of learning and knowledge is power. yet this is a little difficult to listen to , stories of narcissists are never fun.
I do believe every single woman should learn how to avoid them and read this book as to avoid future therapy after learning these unfortunate lessons.
on the other hand, it's depressing that women go through these unique challenges, and to acknowledge this.

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THE BOOK THAT MADE IT CLICK

I’ve listened to SO many books after my breakup. I bought extra credits even. But nothing seemed to shed any light on my situation in particular. Until I found this book. I read things saying is sexist and archaic; that women can be scared of commitment too, and seriously, why fight for the right to be as stupid as men? This book is THE ONLY BOOK that made me understand what was happening and why. It was my come to Jesus moment. I mean the author wrote a second book due to the overwhelming response for women to be included in the commitment phobic club. I swear to god. I’ve listened to the whole thing three times over. I have all my little bookmark clippings. This book allowed me to accept just what a hopeless loser he is. It allowed me to give up hope on a relationship that I now realize was over WAY before I thought it was. It allowed me to see my own value and not give this idiot any more real estate in my brain. He doesn’t deserve it.

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Amazing! Highly recommend

Total guy perspective and helped me realize that no I'm not the problem. It literally felt like the author was speaking directly to me so many relatable topics. I actually read this once a month to keep me on the right track. I have recommended this to a few girl friends and they all loved it as well.

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