
You Can Lead a Horse to Water but You Can't Make 'Em Cha Cha
Why Some People Stay in Abuse and Some Don't
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Kristine Anne Godinez LPC
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Jacob Gresser
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This new audiobook by Kris Godinez gives a conglomeration of case studies to illustrate what motivates and drives an abusive relationship and why some people stay and others don’t.
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- Heather E
- 08-15-18
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Great book, but if you listen to her channel on YouTube it is essentially the same information!
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- Mittens u.
- 07-01-19
Key point don't dis the abuser to the target.
Stay a supportive friend/family as the target is abused as that is the only way you can stay in the targets life. Hopefully target will see the abuse and finally leave the abuser. You will be there to help the target(your friend/family) pick up the pieces.
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- Rena S
- 08-20-18
Eye Opener
this information needs to be common knowledge! I love Kris's live stream Counseling talks too!
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- Jski
- 07-12-18
Fabulous
In this book Kris explains abuse in easily understandable terms. Real life examples of the abuse help to solidify and absorb the information.
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- Pamela Arsena
- 10-09-18
Exactly what you need to understand abusive people
This is a must-read for anyone who has survived a cluster B personality type especially after abuse or and anyone that has gone through child abuse. love the use of real case studies and how the author presents the material. Compliments the YouTube video series nicely. Very grateful for this book
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- Heather
- 09-24-21
Great read
I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who is having a hard time with their loved one who they can see is in a toxic relationship. With tears in my eyes I have a much better understanding of these abusers, how they pick their targets and things you can do to help keep healthy boundaries but yet keep the door unlocked. Great read Thank you Kris!
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- Regular Amazon Customer
- 06-13-19
Great insight
Great insight about abusive relationships and how the dreadful cycle is kept in play. It’s hard to see the abuse sometimes when you are in such a relationship but this book will surely open ones eyes to what and how it can happen. Excellent resource.
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- 12-21-20
loved it
I absolutely love this book! I'd recommend to anyone struggling with watching a loved one deal with a narcissist.
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- Amazon Customer
- 06-28-19
Very insightful
Enjoyed the humor, cohesiveness and insight of the book. Goes over terms that were almost unknown to me yet, when comparing it to behaviors I have seen, Male so much sense. Can't wait for the next book.
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- Heather
- 05-11-20
I don’t really write a lot of reviews, but...
This is an excellent book to listen to. Kris goes over everything and has the sense of humor to keep you focused. Great read!
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