In this episode, we explore the intersection of ADHD and the mental load in relationships, uncovering the hidden costs of imbalance and how societal norms often add to the strain. Drawing on years of teaching experience, we discuss strategies to engage interest-based brains and tackle resistant behaviors—whether with middle schoolers or partners.

We dive into how gamifying emotional labor can help ADHD brains build lasting habits, why unlearning outdated gender roles is crucial, and the difference between skill and will when addressing mental load challenges. This conversation is packed with practical tools and real-life examples for anyone navigating ADHD or seeking balance in their partnerships.

Whether you're managing ADHD in your own life, supporting a partner with ADHD, or striving for a more equitable division of labor, this episode offers insights to help you take the next step.

I can’t believe it took me 10 episodes to talk about Fair Play! This system, based on Eve Rodsky’s book, has been a game changer for my family and my work. In this episode, I break down how the Fair Play Method helps partners create more equitable systems for managing home and family life—especially when ADHD is part of the equation.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• Why equity (not equality) is the key to sharing responsibilities in a way that works for both partners.
• How Fair Play’s design naturally supports ADHDers with structure, ownership, and clear communication.
• The importance of carving out time for personal passions, aka your "unicorn space."
• The four ground rules that guide Fair Play and why they matter.
• How societal norms around time, work, and caregiving contribute to burnout—and what we can do to unlearn them.

I also share my personal journey of moving from burnout to a more balanced system with my partner, plus practical tips for starting where you are and figuring out what matters most to your family.

🎧 Tune in now and start building a more equitable home life.

In this episode, I sit down with my 12-year-old friend to chat about our favorite books, the joy of discovering stories, and how reading can be an incredible way to connect with others. We explore everything from fantasy series like Aru Shah to the emotional depth of Remarkably Bright Creatures. Along the way, we share tips for finding books you’ll love—even if you think you’re not a “reader.”

If you’re looking for book recommendations for kids, adults, or families to enjoy together, this episode is packed with inspiration. Plus, we discuss the value of trying new genres, using audiobooks to hook reluctant readers, and how trusting relationships can guide reading choices.

Books mentioned include:

• The Aru Shah Series by Roshani Chokshi
• Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir
• Children of the Fox Series by Kevin Sands
• Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt
• Life of Pi by Yann Martel

Whether you’re a book lover or someone searching for the perfect gateway read, this episode will leave you with plenty of ideas and a reminder that the right book can make all the difference.

Tune in, grab a cup of tea, and let’s talk books!

In this special episode, I sit down with an extraordinary 12-year-old with ADHD who shares his unique perspective on navigating school, friendships, and life. From hoverboarding during Zoom calls to rocking in class to focus, he sheds light on what helps him thrive and what he wishes teachers and classmates understood about ADHD. Join us as we explore everything from managing boredom to finding dopamine boosts in daily life. His insights will make you laugh, reflect, and maybe even rethink ADHD. This episode is perfect for anyone wanting an honest look at ADHD through the eyes of a child!

In this thought-provoking episode, Martha dives deep into the world of hyper fixation and its unique role in the ADHD experience. While hyper fixation is often mistaken for hyper-focus, Martha unpacks how these two concepts differ. Through relatable, real-life examples—like her food, drink, and hobby fixations—she illustrates how hyper fixation can provide a comforting routine or become an intense interest without always leading to the time blindness often associated with hyper-focus.

If you’ve ever wondered why certain snacks, drinks, or interests become your daily must-have, Martha’s insights may provide answers. She also touches on the potential risks of hyper fixation and why it’s so common in ADHD brains. Tune in for a down-to-earth discussion and an invitation to share your own experiences with hyper fixation.

Find Martha on social media @marthahoffmancoaching to join the conversation!

Do you ever start your week with the best intentions, a beautifully organized schedule in hand, only to find yourself tossing it out by Tuesday? If you're someone with ADHD, balancing the need for routine with the desire for spontaneity can feel like an impossible task. This episode is for you!

Join me as we dive into the paradox that so many of us with ADHD face—our brains crave structure, but they also need novelty to stay engaged. I’ll share strategies to build flexible schedules, inject intentional novelty into your day, and create routines that work with your brain rather than against it.

If you’ve ever felt the frustration of trying to stick to a plan but ending up rearranging your bedroom instead, tune in! Learn how to strike the right balance and create a system that actually works.

In this bonus episode, I explore how embracing laziness helps combat the burnout caused by hyperfocus. While routine and predictability are often celebrated, I've found that thriving with ADHD sometimes means breaking away from rigid structures and allowing flexibility. I walk you through a day in my life that may seem chaotic but is really about honoring my energy needs.

I discuss how I've reframed "laziness" from a negative label to a self-care tool. By intentionally stopping work after energy-draining tasks and allowing myself downtime—whether that’s napping, zoning out, or simply resting—I’ve learned to preserve my energy for what truly matters.

If you're an ADHD-er who often finds yourself burnt out, this episode will challenge you to rethink the idea of productivity and encourage you to sprinkle in moments of "lazy". While I acknowledge the privilege of my flexible schedule, I also emphasize that small, intentional shifts in how we structure our time can make a big difference, no matter our circumstances.

This one's for the high achievers who feel guilty about resting. It's time to reclaim laziness and use it to work smarter, not harder.

ADHD is full of contradictions, and today we're diving into one of the biggest: how can we experience both a lack of focus and extreme focus? In this episode, we'll explore why ADHD brains seem to tune out the world at times and, at others, get completely lost in what’s called hyper-focus.

If you’ve ever heard "Are you even listening to me?" or struggled with time slipping away while you’re laser-focused, this episode is for you. Martha shares real-life examples, including her own experiences with hyper-focus, why it can be both a superpower and a struggle, and strategies to harness it effectively.

From the benefits of harnessing hyper-focus for creativity and productivity to the downsides like burnout and time blindness, you'll learn how to balance these extremes. Martha also covers practical strategies—like using timers, external accountability, and environment management—to make hyper-focus work for you.

If this resonated and you’re ready for more, stay tuned for a bonus episode: "Laziness as the Antidote to Hyperfocus."