• Lying for Your 10-Year-Old

  • Sep 24 2024
  • Length: 24 mins
  • Podcast

Lying for Your 10-Year-Old

  • Summary

  • Trust is a vital foundation for healthy relationships. As a parent or someone in a parenting role, you play an important role in your ten-year-old’s success. There are intentional ways to grow a healthy parent-child relationship and learn how to promote trust in your child.

    Lying represents an important milestone in your child’s thinking as they learn that others have different beliefs and perspectives than their own. Experimenting with lying is a typical part of a child’s development. Experimenting with lying is how they come to understand their perspective versus others’ and also how they test boundaries. Children ages five to ten are learning about the rules of school and family life. For your child to understand rules, they need to test them and sometimes break them.

    The key to many parenting challenges, like raising children who grow in their understanding of the value of truth-telling, is finding ways to communicate so that both your and your child’s needs are met. The steps below will prepare you to help your child learn more about your family values, how they relate to lying, and how you can grow and deepen your trusting relationship.

    Why Lying?

    Whether your five-year-old lies about eating their dinner when you can clearly see they have been stashing peas in their napkin, your seven-year-old telling their teacher they did their homework but left it at home when they didn’t, or your ten-year-old telling a friend they dance ballet when they’ve never tried it, your child’s ability to tell the truth can become a regular challenge if you don’t create plans and strategies.

    Today, in the short term, honesty can create

    ● greater opportunities for connection and enjoyment

    ● trust in each other

    ● a sense of well-being for a parent and child

    ● added daily peace of mind

    Tomorrow, in the long term, your child

    ● builds skills in self-awareness

    ● builds skills in social awareness, perspective-taking, empathy, and compassion

    ● builds skills in self-control

    ● develops moral and consequential thinking and decision-making

    Five Steps for Teaching Your Child About Honesty

    This five-step process helps you teach your child honesty and builds important skills. The same process can also be used to address other parenting issues (learn more about the process[1] ).

    Tip: These steps are best when you and your child are not tired or in a rush.
    Tip: Intentional communication[2] and a healthy parenting relationship[3] support these steps.
    Step 1. Get Your Child Thinking by Getting Their Input

    You can get your child thinking about honesty by asking them open-ended questions. You’ll help prompt your child’s thinking. You’ll also better understand their thoughts, feelings, and challenges related to honesty so that you can address them. In gaining input, your child

    ● has the opportunity to become more aware of how they are thinking and feeling related to lies and truth

    ● can begin to formulate what it means to be in a trusting relationship

    ● can think through and problem-solve any temptations to lie they may encounter ahead of time

    ● has a greater stake in anything they’ve designed themself (and with that...

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