In this episode of Kizmet, host Kiz Harvey speaks with author and columnist Kerri Sackville about life after divorce and the powerful path of self-discovery. Together, they unpack the emotional rollercoaster of ending a marriage, the realities of parenting solo, and the evolving nature of friendships post-divorce. Kerry shares her honest reflections on dating in midlife, why emotional safety is non-negotiable in relationships, and how learning to embrace aloneness became a gateway to personal growth.

Whether you're navigating divorce, rediscovering yourself, or curious about midlife dating, this conversation offers real talk, hard-won wisdom, and hope for what comes next.

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Key Takeaways

• Why it’s healthier to be alone than in the wrong relationship
• How divorce can feel like a chaotic reset—and what comes after
• The challenges and rewards of solo parenting
• Why self-acceptance and comfort with aloneness are essential before dating again
• How friendship dynamics shift after a breakup
• The role of emotional safety in building new relationships
• That you don’t need an excuse to say no in dating or life

Chapter Breakdown:
00:00 — Navigating Post-Divorce Life
02:30 — Reflections on Marriage Breakdown
09:23 — The Role of New Partners
11:27 — Dating in Midlife: The Journey Begins
16:09 — The Importance of Being Alone
22:30 — Friendship Dynamics After Divorce
25:17 — The Value of Aloneness
30:28 — Finding Emotional Safety in Relationships

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In this episode of the Kizmet podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with Alice to explore the emotional complexities of infidelity shattering Alice’s once-thriving expat lifestyle, leading to a powerful journey of personal growth, self-discovery, and healing. Alice shares the subtle signs of betrayal, and the overwhelming emotional recovery required to rebuild after separation. This heartfelt conversation highlights the role of resilience in navigating relationships post-divorce, the loneliness often experienced in expat life, and the ongoing process of reclaiming one's identity.

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Key Takeaways:

• Infidelity often reveals itself in subtle yet deeply impactful ways.
• Honest confrontation is essential for addressing relationship breakdowns.
• The emotional aftermath of betrayal can feel overwhelming and disorienting.
• Children are highly perceptive of shifting family dynamics.
• Trust is the cornerstone of any strong relationship.
• Rebuilding after divorce demands deep self-reflection and growth.
• Forgiveness is a key part of emotional healing.
• Self-discovery is a lifelong journey, especially after significant life changes.

Episode Chapters:
00:00 Navigating Life After Divorce

01:38 The Expat Experience and Its Challenges

03:06 The Unraveling of a Marriage

10:14 Confrontation and Realizations

19:06 The Aftermath of Betrayal

29:49 Finding Identity and Healing

37:12 Moving Forward and Embracing Change

40:14 Reflections on Love and Forgiveness

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In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey has a candid and thought-provoking conversation with Dan about the complexities surrounding his parents' divorce after 50 years of marriage. They delve into the often-overlooked ripple effects of such a life-changing event, particularly how it impacts families and relationships.

Kiz and Dan discuss the emotional shock of witnessing a long-lasting marriage come to an end, the crucial role of empathy in understanding everyone’s perspective, and the difficulties of navigating family dynamics in the aftermath of divorce. Through personal reflections, Dan shares the challenges of supporting children and grandchildren while still trying to maintain healthy relationships as the family adjusts to the changes.

Emphasising the importance of open communication, understanding, and compassion, Dan offers valuable insights into how families can weather the emotional storm of a late-in-life divorce and find ways to heal together. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the complexities of family and the resilience needed to thrive in the face of unexpected change.

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🔖 divorce, family dynamics, grief, empathy, relationships, post-divorce, parenting, communication, resilience, personal growth

Key Takeaways

• Divorce impacts not just the couple but the entire family unit.
• Children are resilient but need support and understanding during transitions.
• It's important to protect children from the negative aspects of adult relationships.
• Grief is a personal and unique experience that everyone processes differently.
• Maintaining boundaries is essential for healthy family interactions post-divorce.
• Open doors for communication help children express their feelings and concerns.
• Understanding the reasons behind relationship breakdowns can foster empathy.
• Personal growth often comes from navigating difficult family situations.

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Divorce and Its Ripple Effects

07:41 The Shock of Separation and Family Dynamics

19:01 Understanding Grief and Moving Forward

22:42 The Importance of Empathy and Non-Judgment

30:38 Key Takeaways for Families in Transition

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The Divorce Part 3: Daughter

In this deeply moving episode of the Kizmet podcast, host Kiz Harvey speaks with Kartya about the emotional impact of her parents divorce on family dynamics and mental health. Kartya recounts her journey through her parents' separation, the sudden shift in family roles, and the profound emotional upheaval she faced. It highlights how communication breakdowns, secrets, and shifting responsibilities can affect children during and after a divorce. This episode offers valuable life lessons on coping strategies, emotional recovery, and the transformative power of reinvention and personal development.

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Key Takeaways:

• Divorce impacts the entire family dynamic, not just the couple.
• Children often experience confusion and emotional pain during separation.
• Poor communication can deepen emotional wounds in divorce.
• Children may unexpectedly take on caregiving roles.
• Mental health struggles can complicate the divorce experience.
• Keeping secrets from children fosters isolation and mistrust.
• Divorce can accelerate a child's journey to independence.
• Appearances of a "perfect family" can mask deeper issues.
• Post-divorce relationships thrive with open, honest communication.
• Personal growth often springs from emotional adversity.
• The emotional impact of family turmoil is profound and lasting.
• Support systems, especially strong friendships, are crucial for healing.
• Mixed emotions are a normal response to major life changes.
• Resilience often emerges through hardship and healing.
• Therapy can be a key tool for emotional growth and recovery.
• Trauma can unlock hidden strengths and confidence.
• Navigating post-divorce parental relationships is complex but vital.
• True personal development often requires stepping outside comfort zones.
• Embracing change can lead to unexpected new beginnings and empowerment.
  
  

Episode Chapters:
00:00 — The Impact of Divorce on Family Dynamics
03:50 — Navigating the Shock of Separation
11:52 — The Unraveling of Family Facades
15:46 — The Role Reversal: Becoming the Caregiver
20:41 — Communication Breakdown and Emotional Fallout
21:35 — Navigating Family Turmoil
25:03 — The Journey to Independence
30:10 — Finding Resilience Through Adversity
36:10 — Mixed Emotions of New Beginnings
41:16 — Embracing Change and Growth

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The Divorce Part 2: Husband

In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with previous episode guest Serena’s husband Pred to explore his life during and after divorce. Together, they discuss the emotional impact of their marriage breakdown, the complexities of dating again in your 50s, and the journey of personal reinvention. Pred shares his candid experiences with navigating family dynamics, finding happiness, and ultimately remarrying. The conversation sheds light on the challenges and opportunities that come with post-divorce life and the lessons learned along the way. Stay tuned for the next episode with their daughter Kartya.

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Key Takeaways:

• The emotional impact of divorce varies among family members.
• Reinvention after divorce is a transformative experience.
• Understanding different perspectives is crucial in processing a marriage breakdown.
• Investing in relationships before children leave home strengthens family bonds.
• Many couples experience a disconnect after focusing primarily on parenting.
• Dating after divorce requires openness to new experiences.
• Honest communication is essential in new relationships.
• The pursuit of happiness post-divorce can lead to unexpected opportunities.
• Navigating family dynamics after divorce presents both challenges and rewards.
• Personal growth often stems from reflecting on past relationships.

Memorable Sound Bites:

• "I'm leaving on Monday."
• "I didn't really want to mess up his HSC."
• "I was literally counting the days."
• "Marriage is perfunctory. We're just going through the motions."
• "You can never go forward by looking in a rearview mirror."

Chapters:
00:00 – Introduction to Kizmet Podcast and Guest Pred
02:55 – Reflections on Marriage Breakdown and Narratives
05:57 – Understanding the Impact of Divorce on Family Dynamics
08:53 – The Journey of Reinvention After Divorce
12:08 – Dating and Relationships Post-Divorce
15:06 – Navigating New Relationships and Family Dynamics
17:46 – Finding Happiness and Remarrying
20:56 – Lessons Learned and Moving Forward
24:01 – Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Tune in to this insightful discussion on rebuilding life after divorce and embracing new beginnings. Don’t forget to subscribe to Kizmet Podcast for more relatable stories of divorce!

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The Divorce Part 1: Wife

In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with her guest Serena to explore the often-overlooked complexities of grey divorce. Together, they discuss the emotional journey of resilience, healing, and self-discovery that follows the breakdown of long-term relationships.

Serena opens up about her experience, describing her married life as resembling the façade of a "Stepford Wife." On the outside, everything appeared perfect—happy family, smooth social life—but behind closed doors, things were slowly falling apart. Secret bank accounts, unspoken issues, and an underlying sense of growing disconnect made her realise that her marriage was crumbling, even though she hadn’t fully seen it at the time.

Through candid and heartfelt conversations, Kiz and Serena shed light on how embracing vulnerability, facing painful truths, and starting over can lead to a new sense of freedom and self-purpose. This episode highlights the often transformative and empowering experience of rediscovering oneself after divorce. If you're navigating similar struggles, or just curious about the journey of emotional healing, this conversation is a must-listen.

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Key Takeaways

• Grey divorce is on the rise due to various societal changes.
• Perception of a perfect life can mask underlying issues.
• Shame and guilt often accompany the breakdown of relationships.
• Financial independence is crucial for women post-divorce.
• Survival mode can lead to seeking necessary support and legal advice.
• Rebuilding life involves learning new skills and finding new identities.
• Emotional healing is a non-linear process that takes time.
• Finding purpose in work can aid in personal growth after divorce.
• Authenticity and vulnerability can strengthen relationships with others.
• Embracing change can lead to a more fulfilling life.

Personal growth, resilience, emotional healing, relationships, life after divorce, self-discovery, financial independence, support systems, reinvention

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Grey Divorce and Personal Stories

03:01 Navigating the Breakdown of Relationships

06:03 The Impact of Perception and Shame

08:49 Uncovering the Truth: Financial and Emotional Realities

12:01 The Aftermath of Discovery and Initial Reactions

15:00 Survival Mode: Seeking Legal and Emotional Support

17:51 Rebuilding Life: Strategies and New Beginnings

20:54 Finding New Identity and Purpose

24:03 Thriving After Divorce: Career and Personal Growth

27:02 Reflections on the Past and Embracing the Future

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In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with Jackie, a chartered accountant, to explore the often-overlooked complexities of navigating finances during and after a divorce. Together, they discuss the emotional and financial preparations necessary for separation, offering practical advice for those facing similar challenges.

Kiz and Jackie dive deep into the benefits of collaborative practice in divorce proceedings, emphasising the importance of being proactive and well-informed. They also highlight the critical need to prioritise the well-being of children during this difficult transition, and how money plays a central role in shaping family dynamics and future stability.

The conversation covers a range of topics, from the emotional toll of legal battles to the importance of honesty and having reliable financial advisors by your side. Jackie offers expert tips on how to address financial issues and differences, while also stressing the importance of clear communication and transparency.

If you're navigating a divorce or simply seeking to understand the financial landscape of separation, this episode will empower you with the knowledge and strategies needed to face the challenges ahead. Tune in to be informed, prepared, and empowered as you take control of your financial future.

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Key Takeaways

• Being emotionally prepared for marriage breakdown.
• Understanding financial aspects is crucial during separation.
• Collaborative practice can be a more amicable approach to divorce.
• It's important to have all financial documents in order before separation.
• Children's well-being should be prioritised during divorce.
• Communication between separating partners is key to a smooth process.
• Seeking professional advice can help navigate complex financial situations.
• Emotional readiness is as important as financial readiness.
• Emotional tolls can lead to hasty decisions in legal battles.
• Non-disclosure of assets can have severe consequences.
• Valuing emotional versus financial assets can be complex.
• Mediation is often more effective than court battles.
• Finding good advisors can significantly impact outcomes.

Divorce, finances, collaborative practice, emotional readiness, separation, financial planning, post-divorce, family dynamics, tax returns, mediation, family, separation, divorce, financial dynamics, emotional toll, legal battles, non-disclosure, hidden assets, communication, empowerment

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Post-Divorce Finances

03:11 Preparing for Separation: Emotional and Financial Readiness

08:49 Collaborative Practice: A New Approach to Divorce

12:53 The Emotional Dynamics of Separation

16:24 Practical Financial Advice for Divorcees

19:56 The Importance of Family in Times of Crisis

22:28 Navigating Financial Dynamics in Separation

25:58 The Emotional Toll of Legal Battles

29:35 The Consequences of Non-Disclosure

32:35 Investigating Hidden Assets

35:51 Valuing Emotional vs. Financial Assets

39:53 The Role of Communication in Collaborative Separation

42:41 Empowerment Through Knowledge and Preparation

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In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey takes a moment to reflect on the past year's journey of navigating life and relationships after divorce. The conversation offers a heartfelt look at the challenges faced along the way, particularly the complexities of communication with ex-partners and the therapeutic power of sharing personal experiences.

Kiz explores the importance of including diverse perspectives when discussing divorce, emphasising how different viewpoints can lead to greater understanding and healing. She also highlights the impact vulnerability has had on the podcast, sharing the positive feedback received from listeners like you, who have connected deeply with the stories and insights shared.

As the episode unfolds, Kiz teases upcoming episodes that promise to dive even deeper into themes of love, healing, and personal growth after divorce. Whether you're on your own journey or simply curious about the complexities of life post-divorce, this episode offers a reflective and insightful look at the challenges and rewards that come with embracing change and moving forward.

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Key Takeaways

• The podcast explores the journey of post-divorce reinvention.
• Communication with ex-partners can be challenging but is essential.
• Vulnerability in sharing personal stories can lead to healing.
• Different perspectives on divorce are crucial for understanding.
• Therapeutic conversations with children can strengthen family bonds.
• Navigating social media can be difficult post break up..
• Upcoming episodes will explore financial and emotional aspects of divorce.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Kizmet Podcast and Season Two

02:00 Exploring Relationships Post-Divorce

06:04 Navigating Communication with Ex-Partners

11:51 The Impact of Vulnerability in this Podcast

16:13 Feedback and Transformation Through the your feedback

20:07 Teasing Upcoming Episodes and Themes

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