Episodios

  • Diet Scams, Lost Love, and the Talk You Must Have Before Marriage | Ep. 19

    Diet Scams, Lost Love, and the Talk You Must Have Before Marriage | Ep. 19
    May 22 2025
    In this episode, Ted and Patrick answer your questions — from diet scams and supplement lies to what happens when you fall for someone you can’t be with. They then react to a Reddit thread and share their insights and opinions on the authors’ posts. It opens up a raw conversation about money, career sacrifice, power dynamics, and what fairness really looks like in modern relationships. AITA thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/d7b5e1/aita_for_calling_off_my_wedding_because_my_stbh/ 00:00 Intro 01:18 Diet and Fitness Lies - Reader Question #1 01:39 Why Dieting Feels Impossible for Some People 02:07 Ozempic & Wegovy: The New ‘Cheat Code’ for Willpower? 03:12 The Dark Side of Keto 03:29 Cutting Through Diet Scams: Focus on Protein 04:42 Patrick & Ted’s Go-To Protein Shakes 08:25 Increase Your Fibre Intake 08:52 Ditch the Diet Myths: Focus on Protein and Real Food 09:58 No More Cheat Meals: Balance Your Diet Without Guilt 11:07 Healthy Habits: Meal Prep & Consistency 12:35 Fasting, Willpower Hacks & How to Beat Soda Cravings 14:23 No Magic Bullets: Real Talk on Supplements 15:02 Huel and Protein Shakes to Stop Snack Attacks 16:00 Build Your Routine Slowly 16:35 Ted’s ‘Boy Dinner’ & Finding What Works for You 17:14 The Truth About Sugar-Free Sodas 18:11 Food Prep, Fitness, and Self-Compassion 19:20 Listen to Your Body 20:34 Are You Absorbing Vitamin D? 20:50 What Salt Cravings Really Mean 21:46 Cravings as Your Body’s Natural Signals 24:00 Keep It Simple: Basics Before Complexity in Fitness & Diet 26:15 Letting Go of One-Sided Love - Reader Question #2 27:27 Focus on Those Who Choose You 29:12 Moving on from Unrequited Love 30:53 Letting Go to Grow 32:49 Balancing Cost and Effort in Relationships - Reader Question #339:43 Prenups & Financial Conversations - Reddit Question 43:30 Trust and Tough Conversations in Love 51:30 Outro (Subscribe, Comment, Follow us on social media)
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    53 m
  • Cringe Culture Is Killing Your Love Life | Ep. 18

    Cringe Culture Is Killing Your Love Life | Ep. 18
    May 20 2025
    In this episode, Ted and Patrick talk about how the fear of being “cringe” is keeping you from real connection—and why embracing romance might be the most powerful choice you make. Romance isn’t weakness. It’s intention. It’s action. It’s courage. And it has nothing to do with clichés—unless those clichés matter to you. This is about showing up fully. Because the moment you stop performing and start caring, everything changes. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:40 Defining Romance and Its Misconceptions 08:01 The Research Behind Romance and Relationships 11:56 Communication and Connection in Romance 14:49 Maintaining Passion in Relationships 16:17 Societal Views on Romance and Cringe 20:04 Ted’s Take on Love and Romance from Experience 22:53 Why Romance Isn’t a ‘Cheat Code’ in Relationships 25:40 The Importance of Romance in Relationships 28:10 Defining ‘Cringe' 28:40 Why Cringe is Killing Authenticity 29:50 Embracing Awkwardness for Growth 32:50 From School Judgments to Adult Social Fears 35:55 Rejecting Cringe and Embracing Authenticity 37:27 Attentiveness: The Foundation of Real Connection 41:05 Maintaining Attentiveness in Long-Term Relationships 43:15 Romance Is About Growth, Not Comfort 45:00 Your Relationship Is a Potted Plant—When to Repot It 47:54 Ted's Cringe-Worthy Romance Story 54:04 The Right Gift Is a Lesson in Who They Are 55:07 Patrick's Top 3 Tips on How to Reignite the Spark 55:30 #1 Maintain Connection in Relationships 1:02:04 #2 Show You Care 1:07:13 #3 Break Your Habits 1:08:48 Ted's 2 Sexy Habits That Build Intimacy 1:12:38 Embrace Vulnerability and Rejecting Cringe 1:15:20 Outro (Follow us on Social Media)
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    1 h y 16 m
  • Fix Your Skin for $20! | Ep. 17

    Fix Your Skin for $20! | Ep. 17
    May 15 2025
    In this episode, Ted and Patrick explore how cultural ideas about masculinity prevent many men from taking care of their skin, causing them to avoid basic skincare—often at the expense of their own comfort. They explain why this mindset needs to change, how to identify your skin type, and how to create a simple, affordable skincare routine for under $20. No fluff, no complicated 10-step processes—just clear skin and common sense. Enjoy! Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Links to references mentioned in the episode CeraVe https://www.cerave.com Truck driver's severe sun damage on his left side after 28 years of UVA exposure through his window. https://www.reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/comments/10ke8k6/28_years_of_sun_exposure_made_the_left_side_of/ Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:53 Demystifying Skincare 03:18 What Got Patrick into Skincare 04:53 Men and Skincare Challenges 06:05 Ted's Top 2 Tips for Skin Protection 07:02 Masculinity vs Skincare 10:53 Skincare Isn’t New – It’s Always Been a Thing 11:20 Ted on Being Fabulous—Take the Steps 12:27 The Basic Principles of Skincare 13:22 Know Your Skin Type 15:36 Skincare Doesn’t Need To Be Complicated 17:46 Patrick’s Skincare Tips 21:44 Patrick’s Skincare Non-Negotiables 25:09 How Ted Handles the Sun 27:23 Hygiene Rules Every Man Should Follow 31:00 Sunscreen and Skin Protection 32:22 Be Willing To Try Things 33:04 Ted's Skin Concerns and Routine 36:00 Patrick's Simple Skin Regimen 41:47 Facials, Pedicures & Spa Vibes 44:17 The Best Anti-Aging Secret 46:19 Retinol Basics and Tips 49:07 Scrubbing and Exfoliation Tips 50:27 Men's Makeup and Aging Gracefully 56:44 Key Takeaways 1:00:50 Outro 1:01:36 B-roll (TV References and Nostalgia, Dating Preferences and “Type”, Cultural Perceptions of Beauty)
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    1 h y 7 m
  • How Dating Someone Older Can Fix You | Ep. 16

    How Dating Someone Older Can Fix You | Ep. 16
    May 13 2025
    In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into the world of age gap relationships—breaking down the stigma, the history, and the real reasons behind why people choose partners much older or younger than themselves.From sugar daddying to genuine connection, they explore everything from Tracee Ellis Ross's preference for dating younger men to what age gap relationships can actually teach us about emotional maturity, relationship dynamics, and being honest about what we truly want. Enjoy! Links to videos mentioned in the episode Tracee Ellis Ross speaking with Michelle Obama https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HsnPE5Hauio Dennis Rodman Vice animation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p3zDKkoNMcg&rco=1 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:19 The Social Stigma Around Age Gap Dating 01:58 The History of Age Gap Relationships 06:30 What Ted and Patrick define as an age gap relationship 10:53 Distinguishing between sexual relationships and those more than that 11:53 Tracee Ellis Ross shares her preference for dating younger men 18:20 Ted’s Lessons on Why Younger Women Date Older Men 24:00 Why Ted chooses to date younger women 33:42 Sugar daddying 37:45 What Age Gap Dating Can Teach You 39:55 Be Honest About What You Want in a Relationship 47:04 Ted's dating story 52:00 Patrick's thoughts on age gap dating now 54:30 Takeaway points on age gap dating 1:00:22 Follow us on social media 1:00:46 Broll (Michael Douglas, Dennis Rodman)
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    1 h y 4 m
  • Men Think This Is Attractive - But Women Disagree Completely | Ep. 15

    Men Think This Is Attractive - But Women Disagree Completely | Ep. 15
    May 8 2025
    On this episode, Ted and Patrick answer reader questions, starting with emotional suppression. Learn how to express yourself, build better habits, and why crying is ingrained in us. Next, long-term meaning and fulfillment. How do you avoid short-term gratification to build the life you want? Then, Olly Murs got fit, but why do Men and Women disagree on which part of his transformation looks better? After a quick detour on Ryan Reynolds, James Corden, Hugh Jackman, and Kieran Culkin, the episode ends with the hosts' responses to an “Am I The Asshole” Reddit thread exploring grief, family, and enforcing boundaries. Links to referenced material: Carl Rogers therapy session: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uRCD3anKsa0 Sabrina Zohar reels: https://www.instagram.com/sabrina.zohar/reels/?hl=en Jillian Turecki reels: https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki/reels/?hl=en Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090 Olly Murs Twitter thread: https://x.com/imbethmccoll/status/1916513232845484340 Reddit thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1kad2je/aita_for_refusing_to_go_to_my_grandmas_funeral/ Listen to us on Megaphone (or find our RSS Feed!): https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/VI9326253269?selected=VI1151133526 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 00:50 - Plan for the episode 01:50 - Question about emotional suppression 03:50 - Crying isn’t the only way to feel sad 04:42 - Crying is deeply ingrained in us 06:00 - A habit of avoiding emotions 06:50 - Sad music as a release + Allowing yourself to feel sad 08:15 - Patrick’s visualization exercise 09:52 - These habits take a long time to break 11:13 - Patrick’s experience with not taking the time to process his emotions 13:24 - The inverse can also be true - too much time on emotions 15:03 - Emotions do NOT mean you’re broken 16:35 - Long-term meaning and fulfillment question 17:18 - Society tempts men with short-term gratification 18:06 - Build for YOUR future instead 19:12 - These don’t have to be chores 20:06 - Long-term meaning and fulfillment changes over time 21:03 - Build things that last for you and other people 22:37 - The person you spend your life with is YOU 23:20 - You don’t want to maintain every aspect of your life 24:26 - Creativity comes from doing 25:41 - Do not be afraid to fail 26:31 - Being interested in improving yourself is the first step 27:05 - Crucial concepts to get started with? 28:44 - Sharing book recommendations + Interesting people to listen to 30:30 - Surround yourself with stuff you’re interested in 32:45 - As long as it doesn’t hurt you it works 33:10 - Olly Murs and Attractiveness to men vs women 34:25 - Olly Murs fitness journey 34:59 - Men’s vs women’s opinions 36:45 - Your own lens of body image + Ryan Reynolds getting in shape 37:45 - Ted gets reasons from women 38:18 - Too self absorbed/committed? 39:02 - Guys have a different impression 39:58 - Do you want that body? 41:05 - Don’t try and be in a different category 42:14 - Fitness is what’s sustainable for YOU 44:09 - Women notice insecurities IMMEDIATELY 45:32 - Hugh Jackman and phases of being ripped 46:29 - Patrick’s opinion of Ryan Reynolds and James Corden 47:27 - English vs American perception of James Corden 48:20 - Kieran Culkin 50:11 - Am I the asshole? 55:35 - Only remembering the positive about someone is detached 56:58 - Neither angel nor devil 58:26 - It takes strength to push back on this 59:25 - Family is volatile 01:00:56 - B-roll (Fondling parchment, veiny goat skin, and funny kids stories) #emotions #fitness #fit #fitnessgoals #grief #podcast #bodyimage #selfacceptance #reddit #redditstories
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    1 h y 7 m
  • You Think You Know Yourself — Then You Become a Parent | Ep. 14

    You Think You Know Yourself — Then You Become a Parent | Ep. 14
    May 6 2025
    Becoming a parent doesn’t just change your life — it changes you. In this open and thoughtful episode, Patrick and Ted reflect on how fatherhood has shaped them as people. They share the challenges they’ve faced, the unexpected rewards they’ve discovered, and how their parenting styles have influenced not only their children but also their own personal growth. This conversation dives into how the way we parent doesn’t just affect our kids — it mirrors who we are and shapes who we become. From emotional ups and downs to the quiet lessons no one talks about, this is a real and honest look at the journey of parenthood — and why it may be the most powerful transformation of all. Israeli parole board 2011 study: https://www.abajournal.com/news/article/study_of_israeli_parole_board_shows_why_good_scheduling_promotes_decisions Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast 0:0:00 Intro 00:44:23 Navigating the Challenges of Parenthood 0:03:09 You are not truly busy until you have kids 0:05:15 Loneliness of parenthood 0:06:05 The toll newborns can have on the relationship - renegotiating your relationship with your partner 0:06:26 Postpartum Depression and loss of identity especially for women 0:07:00 You can never truly prepare for parenthood 0:08:56 The blessing of having grandparents or extended family around to help 0:10:04 How things can go wrong 0:10:54 Israeli parole board 2011 study 0:11:27 The impact of being depleted and stressed on our decision making 0:12:20 The importance of taking care of yourself so you can parent better 0:13:09 Understanding parenting frameworks 0:13:58 Imposter Syndrome and Feeling Incompetent as a Parent 0:14:26 You need a parenting framework to not impact the raising of your child 0:14:48 Philip Larkin - This be the verse 0:15:02 What parenting reminds Patrick of 0:15:20 The Balance of Discipline and Freedom in Parenting 0:16:30 Ted sharing example of gentle parenting 0:16:53 Older Generation Parenting styles (authoritative) 0:17:15 Downside/Impact of authoritative parenting on the child 0:17:35 Kids Need Connection, Not Control 0:20:08 parenting is harder than you think 0:20:53 Your Child Wants Connection—And Control 0:21:10 Gentle Parenting: A Modern Approach 0:21:51 Gentle parenting closely matches Authoritative parenting 0:23:11 Parenting by Default or Design? 0:23:43 Parenting Isn’t That Different from Coaching Football 0:24:49 Navigating Parenting Through Generational Changes 0:26:28 Parenting Without Shame: Choosing Gentleness Over Guilt 0:27:26 Gentle Parenting Starts With Self-Reflection 0:29:24 Patrick and Ted’s Parenting Experience (The Joys & Challenges) 0:37:26 It's Okay Not to Be Ready 0:39:58 Raising Kids in a Better World 0:41:34 Worrying About Being a Good Parent Means You’re On the Right Path 0:44:58 Principles of Gentle Parenting 0:50:29 How to React Better - Teaching Kids Consequences 0:55:52 Things to Remember 1:00:16 Points to Takeaway
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    1 h y 14 m
  • Nobody Regrets Getting Fit — Here’s Why You Should Start Now | Ep. 13

    Nobody Regrets Getting Fit — Here’s Why You Should Start Now | Ep. 13
    May 1 2025
    On this episode, Ted and Patrick discuss the world of fitness, emphasizing the importance of body composition, weight training, and sustainable habits for longevity and quality of life. They share personal experiences with body image, fitness journeys, and the common mistakes people make when pursuing fitness goals. Enjoy! Listen to us on Megaphone (or find our RSS Feed!): https://cms.megaphone.fm/channel/VI9326253269?selected=VI1151133526 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast 00:00 - Intro 01:01 - Preconceptions of fitness 01:55 - Being fat kids 03:16 - Your goals will change as you age 04:55 - How did you feel about your body in different periods? 07:11 - Everybody who can exercise should do it 08:41 - “Fit” for what? 10:00 - Looking better = attracting higher quality partners 11:13 - Living in a period with more information than ever 12:30 - Mistakes Patrick made starting out 14:59 - Ted’s fitness journey 16:46 - Combining diet and exercise = sustainable 18:14 - Find something you love doing, or that you love the results of doing 19:28 - Fitness changes your life + increases in mobility/flexibility 20:49 - Is Patrick a masochist? + Gamifying running 22:08 - What was Patrick eating? 23:40 - Way to change your diet + How bad breakfast can be 25:26 - Drinking and liquid calories 26:13 - Moderation and not having a magic pill 27:55 - fitness is a lifestyle - make it sustainable 29:41 - Patrick is evangelical about weight lifting 30:30 - How easy it is to find a program online 31:49 - Pat’s pet peeve- going through the motions at the gym 32:18 - Focus on improvement every workout 33:37 - Ted disagrees - you can be casual and see massive results 34:07 - Choosing a body style that you are looking for 35:15 - Different expectations as you age 37:04 - Massive gains when you start and maintaining on less than you think 38:32 - Ted’s ex and strength vs size 40:15 - The benefits of yoga and stretching 41:51 - The 3 pillars of fitness 42:57 - Improving your quality of life is the goal of fitness 43:42 - Back issues can ruin your life 44:05 - Fitness also helps you have a better sex life 47:15 - NEAT and gaining/losing weight after parenthood 48:25 - Gaining muscle and cardio + footballers after retiring 49:11 - Take the walking options and conscious snacking 50:33 - Don’t do something you hate - find what’s right for you 51:40 - Don’t be intimidated 53:21 - Find programs who have the same issues as you + Story time 55:19 - Your body is going to change 56:17 - Your goals will take time, get comfortable with the process 57:42 - Give yourself compliments as well 58:47 - Topics we will cover in the future 59:37 - Respect that past you has made an effort for future you #fitness #weightloss #musclebuilding #bodyimage #gym #cardio #workout #fitnessmotivation #fitnessjourney #fitnesslifestyle #selfimprovement #fyp #foryou
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    1 h y 1 m
  • The Real Reason Relationships Fail (It’s Not What You Think) | Ep.12

    The Real Reason Relationships Fail (It’s Not What You Think) | Ep.12
    Apr 29 2025
    In this episode, Patrick and Ted talk about what makes relationships last. They discuss choosing the right partner, the skills needed to keep love strong, and the tough decision of whether to stay or leave. They also explore the grief of losing shared memories and the often-ignored regrets people have in relationships. They challenge stereotypes about divorce, discuss the role of romance (especially for men), and share personal stories about love. Referenced articles:Gretta Duleba – https://integrationbyparts.substack.com/p/how-relationships-actually-workAella – https://aella.substack.com/p/the-difficulty-in-dating-good-men Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:19 - Introducing the Topic of Relationships 03:49 – What We Mean by 'Romantic Relationships' 04:46 – Pressure on Romantic Partners Today 05:17 – Most Important Conversation to Have 05:46 – Clarifying Needs and Expectations Expectations Early On 06:46 – Understanding Boundaries and What You’re Looking For 06:19 – Age Gap Relationships and Shifting Viewpoints 06:36 – Cornerstone vs. Capstone Relationships 07:30 – Life Stage and Relationship Expectations 08:51 – The Myth of "The One" 08:26 – The Dangers of Over-Complicating Your Partner List 09:13 - Compatibility Beyond Red Lines 10:04 - Avoiding Blind Commitment in Relationships 10:22 - Knowing When to Leave 10:44 - Balancing Flexibility with Non-Negotiables 11:15 - Gretta Duleba's Article 14:29 - Unspoken Assumptions in Relationships 15:19 – Matching Relationship Structures 16:00 - Relationships as Tightropes 18:20 – Conversations and Skills for Relationship Health 19:32 – Renegotiating Relationships as Life Changes 20:40 – Cultural and Familial Influence on Relationship Beliefs 22:07 – Power of Open Conversations 23:30 - Navigating Unspoken Agreements 24:00–Balancing Companionship and Intimacy in Modern Love 25:40 - Adapting to Changes Together 27:42 - The Reality of Your Twenties 29:50 - Aging, Longevity, and How Relationships Change 30:21 - Finding Stability in a Changing World 31:00 - Listen to How You Feel in Relationships 32:04 - Friendships and Emotional Health 32:18 - The Importance of Self-Awareness in Relationships 33:12 - Understanding Fear in Relationships 33:40 - Relationship Skills That Really Matter 34:10 - The Importance of Decision Making in Relationships 35:08 - Repairing Emotional Wounds 35:24 - Ted's Breakup Story and Self-Reflection 38:00 - Why Repair Is Essential in Relationships 38:11 - Rebuilding Parent-Child Relationships 38:38 - Swallowing Ego for Relationship Resilience 39:28 - Rupture and Repair in Therapy 41:22 - The Challenge of Being Comfortable in Therapy 41:43 - Confronting Difficult Family Dynamics 43:26 - How Honest Conversations Repair Relationships 44:33 - Co-Creation: Building Relationships Together 45:14 - How Life Transitions Change Relationship Phases 47:12 - Resilience and Safety 48:07 - Co-Creation Commitment 51:17 - Navigating Differences in Relationship Expectations 51:40 - Understanding the Limits of What Partners Can Give 52:46 - Turning Conflict into Growth 53:10 - Personal Growth and Boundaries 54:30 - Self-Discovery in Relationships 57:45 - The Future of Relationships 59:03 - Approaching Relationships as a Curiosity Project 1:00:00 - Modern Dating Challenges and the Pursuit of a Match 1:05:58 - High Expectations in Modern Dating 1:10:42 - Patrick Questioning Religion and Personal Identity at 16 1:13:38 - Addressing Anger 1:15:37 - Ted on the Impact of Abandoned Relationships 1:16:51 - Developing Real Relationship Skills 1:17:25 - What’s Next 1:17:45 - Ted on Romance and Relationship Skills for Men
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    1 h y 21 m
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