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Reclaiming Rage - The Anger We Were Never Allowed to Feel - And the Radical Act of Asking for More

Why Women Still Need Permission to Be Angry, Ask for More, and Be Heard

What if your anger isn’t a problem… but a powerful kind of truth?

In this episode, we’re diving into the uncomfortable, untamed, and deeply important topic of rage—especially the rage women have been conditioned to repress, soften, and silence.

We talk about why women are still taught not to be angry, how family and cultural dynamics shape our emotional expression, and the radical act of asking for more when you've been told to stay small.

Whether you’ve ever felt frustrated, overlooked, or like your needs always come last—this conversation is for you.

We’ll explore:

• Why anger is still seen as confronting, unacceptable, unfeminine in women
• How rage is often buried under and relabelled as exhaustion, frustration, or sadness
• What happens when we stop asking for what we want & need, and stop expecting to be heard
• The emotional and physical cost of repressing anger
• Why reclaiming your rage can be life-changing
• Practical ways to express anger in healthy, clear, honest ways

Plus: journal prompts, reflective questions, and a call to bravely own your truth without apology.

Because your anger isn’t too much. It’s a message. A compass.
It points to your truth—and something in you that knows things need to change.

Journal Prompts From the Episode:

• Where am I softening my truth to keep the peace?
• What does my anger want me to know?
• What would it look like to let myself fully feel—without apology?

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Living Together Apart – Separated Under One Roof: Tips For Doing It Well

Living together after separating can be a helpful short-term transition... or an emotional, logistical, and legal minefield.

In this episode, I’m diving into what it really takes to make it work if you and your ex are still sharing a home.

Note: this is an updated take on an earlier episode — so if you haven’t already, go back and listen to the first one for the full picture.

I’ll talk you through:

• The key boundaries, conversations, and legal considerations you need to think about
• The pros and cons of this setup and why it needs structure, transparency, and early legal advice
• The financial pros (and the often hidden emotional cons) of delaying the move to two homes
• Where to get the right kind of support — emotionally, practically, and legally

Living together while separated can ease the transition for everyone involved if it’s done well. That means boundaries, clear communication, and planning your next steps.

If you would like a deeper conversation about this book a free intro call or Clarity Consult HERE

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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How do you really know when it’s over?

Not when the signs are loud or obvious, but when a quiet internal voice keeps whispering that this might not be where you're meant to stay.

When inside, there’s a sense of disconnect you can’t ignore.

In this episode, I explore the quiet, internal signs that your marriage or long-term relationship may have run its course, even when there’s no big betrayal or explosive ending.

How your body often knows the truth before your mind is ready to admit it.

Why it’s so hard to acknowledge that an “OK” relationship might not be the right one anymore.

And what to do if you’re emotionally or practically at a crossroads.

This is for you if you're

❥ lying awake at night wondering and asking the same questions on loop
❥ second-guessing your own feelings...
❥ exhausted, confused, or quietly grieving something that hasn’t ended yet.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

❥ The most common (and surprising) ways your body might signal that something’s not right
❥ What it means to feel drained vs. energised in a relationship
❥ Why it doesn’t have to be “bad” to be no longer right
❥ How fear, guilt, and overthinking keep you stuck
❥ The difference between disconnection and normal relationship seasons
❥ What to do when you're not sure you're ready, but you know something needs to change

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.