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Reclaiming Rage - The Anger We Were Never Allowed to Feel - And the Radical Act of Asking for More

Why Women Still Need Permission to Be Angry, Ask for More, and Be Heard

What if your anger isn’t a problem… but a powerful kind of truth?

In this episode, we’re diving into the uncomfortable, untamed, and deeply important topic of rage—especially the rage women have been conditioned to repress, soften, and silence.

We talk about why women are still taught not to be angry, how family and cultural dynamics shape our emotional expression, and the radical act of asking for more when you've been told to stay small.

Whether you’ve ever felt frustrated, overlooked, or like your needs always come last—this conversation is for you.

We’ll explore:

• Why anger is still seen as confronting, unacceptable, unfeminine in women
• How rage is often buried under and relabelled as exhaustion, frustration, or sadness
• What happens when we stop asking for what we want & need, and stop expecting to be heard
• The emotional and physical cost of repressing anger
• Why reclaiming your rage can be life-changing
• Practical ways to express anger in healthy, clear, honest ways

Plus: journal prompts, reflective questions, and a call to bravely own your truth without apology.

Because your anger isn’t too much. It’s a message. A compass.
It points to your truth—and something in you that knows things need to change.

Journal Prompts From the Episode:

• Where am I softening my truth to keep the peace?
• What does my anger want me to know?
• What would it look like to let myself fully feel—without apology?

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Living Together Apart – Separated Under One Roof: Tips For Doing It Well

Living together after separating can be a helpful short-term transition... or an emotional, logistical, and legal minefield.

In this episode, I’m diving into what it really takes to make it work if you and your ex are still sharing a home.

Note: this is an updated take on an earlier episode — so if you haven’t already, go back and listen to the first one for the full picture.

I’ll talk you through:

• The key boundaries, conversations, and legal considerations you need to think about
• The pros and cons of this setup and why it needs structure, transparency, and early legal advice
• The financial pros (and the often hidden emotional cons) of delaying the move to two homes
• Where to get the right kind of support — emotionally, practically, and legally

Living together while separated can ease the transition for everyone involved if it’s done well. That means boundaries, clear communication, and planning your next steps.

If you would like a deeper conversation about this book a free intro call or Clarity Consult HERE

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This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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How do you really know when it’s over?

Not when the signs are loud or obvious, but when a quiet internal voice keeps whispering that this might not be where you're meant to stay.

When inside, there’s a sense of disconnect you can’t ignore.

In this episode, I explore the quiet, internal signs that your marriage or long-term relationship may have run its course, even when there’s no big betrayal or explosive ending.

How your body often knows the truth before your mind is ready to admit it.

Why it’s so hard to acknowledge that an “OK” relationship might not be the right one anymore.

And what to do if you’re emotionally or practically at a crossroads.

This is for you if you're

❥ lying awake at night wondering and asking the same questions on loop
❥ second-guessing your own feelings...
❥ exhausted, confused, or quietly grieving something that hasn’t ended yet.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

❥ The most common (and surprising) ways your body might signal that something’s not right
❥ What it means to feel drained vs. energised in a relationship
❥ Why it doesn’t have to be “bad” to be no longer right
❥ How fear, guilt, and overthinking keep you stuck
❥ The difference between disconnection and normal relationship seasons
❥ What to do when you're not sure you're ready, but you know something needs to change

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

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  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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You’ve probably heard the phrase conscious uncoupling.

Maybe you rolled your eyes when Gwyneth and Chris made it famous, or maybe it struck a deep chord. Either way, in this episode, I’m diving into what it really means to consciously uncouple, and why it can be a powerful, healing path through separation and divorce.

I talk about where the idea came from (hint: it wasn’t actually Gwyneth), what it looks like in real life, and the kind of mindset shift it asks of you.

I also share a little of my own story - how my ex-husband and I chose to separate while still seeing ourselves as a family - and how this choice shaped not just our co-parenting, but our kids' sense of safety and connection.

Whether you’re still in the thick of deciding, already separating, or wanting to make this transition with care, this episode offers real insight into how you can move through it with compassion, courage, even love.

Tune in to hear:
❥ Where the concept of conscious uncoupling really came from
❥ What it looks like when done well and when it doesn’t work
❥ The importance of emotional regulation, personal responsibility, respect, and mutual care
❥ How supporting the parents supports the whole family — kids (and even the dog) included
❥ Tips if you you’re navigating this kind of separation (or you want to)
❥ My role as your uncoupling coach: strategic insight with heart, a steady, trusted guide

If you’re feeling uncertain about your relationship, asking hard questions, or already navigating separation… listen in.

And then, let’s chat about what's possible for you and your family.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Lessons fromThe Other Side of Divorce - What My Clients Want You to Know

If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake at night wondering, Is this really all there is? Is this as good as it gets? - this episode is for you.

Whether you're questioning your relationship, feeling stuck in an unhappy partnership, navigating separation or divorce, you are not alone.

In this episode, I share insights, stories, and hard-won wisdom from those who’ve stood at the same crossroads.

These are the lessons from the other side of divorce - not just learned personally, but gathered through years of walking beside so many amazing humans - just like you - as they face some of the hardest and most transformative moments of their lives.

You’ll hear about grief, guilt, and doubt… but also about clarity, courage, and the unexpected beauty, agency, freedom and joy that comes after.

• Honest reflections from real-life experiences
  
  
• Empowering takeaways for anyone in the midst of relationship uncertainty or the thick of divorce

This episode is a hand to hold through the mess and the magic of starting over. From those who've lived through it.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
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• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Living A Guilt Free Life After Divorce - with guest Annie Kallis

Annie Kallis is a Business & Life Strategist who helps women stop performing and start remembering who they really are beyond the pressure, the roles, and the rules they never agreed to.

Her work is rooted in clarity, self-trust, and deep reconnection. She believes every woman deserves to feel at home in herself, and to build a life and business that actually feel like hers — grounded, true, authentic and wildly free.

In This Episode of Reflect, Reclaim & Liberate we Discuss:

• Annie’s personal story of leaving her marriage and how forgiveness became her superpower; how forgiveness is freedom
  
  
• What it means to stop performing and start remembering who you really are
  
  
• The deep divide that forms when one person does the inner work and the other doesn’t
  
  
• How & why guilt shows up in our lives, as we navigate challenging relationships, separation and divorce and what to do with it
  
  
• The difference between self-responsibility and self-blame
  
  
• The courage it takes to own your part in a relationship breakdown
  
  
• How apologising (even years later) can be liberating and healing

Connect with Annie on:

Facebook

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LinkedIn

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Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
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• Free Resources & Downloads
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  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

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Going through a divorce is hard enough without the added weight of unsolicited opinions, judgment, and well-meaning (but completely unhelpful) advice. Whether it's "Everything happens for a reason" or "Aren't you worried you'll regret this?"—these comments can be invalidating, dismissive, hurtful and sometimes even harmful.

In this episode, I share 12 of the most unhelpful things people say during divorce—and more importantly, how to respond to them.

Tune in to hear:

❥ Why certain phrases can feel dismissive or triggering, even when they come from a place of love
❥ How these comments can undermine your confidence and decision-making process
❥ Calm, strategic ways to respond
❥ Reminders that your divorce is your story, and no one else gets to judge your choices.

💬 What’s the most unhelpful thing someone has said to you about your divorce? Or… let’s flip it—what’s the most supportive and helpful thing someone has said to you? Send me a DM or share in the comments!

If this episode resonates with you, please take a moment to rate, review, and share—it helps more people find the support they need when navigating separation, divorce or reorganising life afterwards.

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

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All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.

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Divorce is hard.

Deciding whether to stay or leave a marriage or relationship is hard.

And, as high-functioning, successful humans, we often make this wrong.

Believing we "should" be able to decide. We "should" be further along the pathway or further into our healing.

We make ourselves wrong, thinking we "should" be doing it differently, better.

I unpack this in this episode.

Tune in to hear:

❥ Why we make ourselves wrong when we’re navigating divorce

❥ Why you feel you “should” be further along than you are

❥ How to (really) cultivate self-compassion to ease yourself through the hard parts

Sallyanne Hartnell - Divorce Coach & Strategist

• How you can work with me
• Book a free intro call
• Join the waitlist for my group program Decide & Thrive
• Free Resources & Downloads
  - Choose You Guidebook
  - Having Hard Conversations - done for you scripts
  - Divorce with Less Drama - The Masterclass

Follow me on INSTAGRAM

All relationships are welcomed and supported at Reflect Coaching 🏳️‍🌈

This podcast is recorded on the land of the Wurundjeri people, the Traditional Custodians of this Land & its first story tellers. I pay respect to the Elders both past and present of the Kulin Nation & to any First Nations people listening.

Please note: all podcast content is general information only, not legal advice or information. Please seek specialist advice to support you & your unique circumstances.