Episode Overview:

In this mini Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie dive into the chemistry of your emotions—specifically the push-pull dance between cortisol and oxytocin. Whether you’ve felt constantly on edge, snappy, or totally burnt out, this episode breaks down what’s really happening in your body and why even small, mindful shifts can help you reset.

Key Talking Points:

• Why cortisol rises in everyday situations—especially the chaotic after-school hours.
• The role cortisol plays in anxiety, poor sleep, burnout, and even menopausal weight gain.
• How oxytocin (the “hug hormone”) helps calm your system and restore emotional balance.
• Easy, everyday ways to raise oxytocin: laughter, connection, touch, and mindfulness.
• How being aware of your hormonal state can increase self-compassion and reduce self-judgment.
• Personal stories from Aileen and Julie on what works for them (and when they know each other's cortisol is up!).

Listener Takeaways:

• Ask yourself: What’s one small thing I can do today to lower cortisol or raise oxytocin?
• Notice your body: Can you feel when you shift into fight-or-flight?
• Remember: It’s not just mental—it’s chemical. Go gently with yourself.
• Try this: A walk with a friend, a deep breath, a long hug, a moment of laughter.

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Got a go-to ritual that helps lower stress or boost connection? We’d love to hear it. Drop us a DM or voice note, or join our WhatsApp group for honest chats and daily support. Link in the show notes.

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Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy

Editor: Allia Lenit Galos

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Disclaimer:

Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.

Episode Overview:

In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie dive into the power behind Mel Robbins’ now-viral “Let Them Theory.” From navigating tricky relationships to handling judgement and unmet expectations, they explore why this simple mindset shift can be so freeing—and so hard to put into practice.

Drawing on their own stories of burnout, people-pleasing, and family conflict, they unpack how learning to “let them” has helped them reclaim their energy, protect their peace, and stop hustling for approval. It’s not about being passive—it’s about releasing control, embracing authenticity, and choosing yourself.

Key Discussion Points:

• How the Let Them Theory became a tool in their personal growth journeys
• Why detachment from outcomes isn't the same as detachment from love
• The role of control in people-pleasing and over-explaining
• Letting go of the need to be seen a certain way by others
• The difference between surrender and checking out
• Why “let them” doesn’t always apply—especially in parenting
• How fear of rejection or judgement often drives over-efforting
• Choosing yourself: protecting peace, energy, and authenticity
• The difference between trying to keep people close vs. letting them drift
• Using “let them” as a circuit-breaker for anxiety and self-doubt

Listener Takeaways:

• You don’t have to fix or manage everyone’s reaction to you.
• “Let them” is a powerful mindset to reclaim peace and clarity.
• Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re a return to your centre.
• Surrendering control doesn’t mean giving up—it means trusting more.
• You can’t force connection. If it’s real, it doesn’t need chasing.

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Have you tried embracing the Let Them mindset? Did it feel freeing or bring up guilt and discomfort? DM us or leave a voice note—we’d love to hear your take.

And don’t forget to join our WhatsApp community, where these deep, honest conversations continue.

Links:

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• Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com

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Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy

Editor: Allia Lenit Galos

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Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.

Episode Overview

In this Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie unpack what it really means to be an introvert or an extrovert—and why understanding the difference is essential for your mental health. It’s not about being shy or social—it’s about how you refill your tank. Whether you’ve been feeling flat, snappy, or overstimulated, this episode is a reminder to tune into what your nervous system actually needs.

Key Discussion Points

• The myth that being outgoing = extroverted
• Why stimulation isn’t the same as nourishment
• The "low hum of depletion" and how it creeps in
• Why introverts need solitude like oxygen
• What happens when we override our natural energy patterns
• How extroverts suffer from too much solitude
• Learning to name your needs—without guilt

Listener Takeaways

• Recharging isn’t selfish—it’s essential
• Notice how you feel after social interactions: restored or drained?
• Solitude can be a lifeline, not a luxury
• Set boundaries to protect your energy before burnout hits
• There’s no one-size-fits-all—figure out what actually works for you

💬 Join the Conversation

Are you an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in between? How do you recharge best? We’d love to hear from you. Drop us a DM, leave a voicemail, or email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com.

Links:

• Join our YKMS WhatsApp Group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/Jcjq9gzY26G1f1iSV65auZ
• Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod
• Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod
• Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com

Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/

Download our FREE e-book: ENOUGH - Just As You Are https://www.youkeepmesane.com/shop/

Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy

Editor: Allia Lenit Galos

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Disclaimer:

Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.