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  • Meaning of Persistence: A Legacy Worth Leaving or Just Another Buzzword?

    Meaning of Persistence: A Legacy Worth Leaving or Just Another Buzzword?
    Jan 9 2025
    Meaning of Persistence: A Legacy Worth Leaving or Just Another Buzzword? Key Points Meaning of Persistence8 Key Factors to Develop PersistenceThe 16 Symptoms of a Lack of PersistenceOvercoming the Fear of Criticism: A Barrier to Persistence4 Ways to Develop PersistenceThe Power of Persistence: A Legacy Worth Leaving Meaning of Persistence Persistence is sticking to something even when it’s hard. It’s about not giving up, no matter how often you fall or fail. Hill said it best: “The majority of people are ready to throw their aims and purposes overboard and give up at the first sign of opposition or misfortune. A few carry on despite all opposition until they attain their goal.” Why is persistence so important? Achieving goals is important, but the real value lies in the person you become. Every time you push through challenges, you build confidence, pick up new skills, and grow your belief in yourself. 8 Key Factors to Develop Persistence Persistence is a mindset, which means it’s something you can grow and strengthen. Like any other state of mind, it relies on specific foundations. Here are the key factors that help develop persistence from the chapter: A Clear PurposeKnowing what you want gives you a reason to keep going, even when things get complicated. It’s like having a compass to guide you through tough times.A Strong DesireWhen you want something, you’ll have the energy to push forward. Desire fuels the determination to keep trying, no matter what.Belief in YourselfConfidence in your ability to succeed makes it easier to stay the course. When you trust yourself, giving up doesn’t feel like an option.A Solid PlanHaving a step-by-step plan keeps you on track. Knowing what to do next makes it easier to keep moving forward.The Right KnowledgeActing on facts instead of guesses helps you avoid unnecessary mistakes. The more you know, the more confident and persistent you’ll be.Supportive PeopleSurrounding yourself with people who cheer you on makes a big difference. A strong support system can keep you motivated when the going gets tough.WillpowerStaying focused and disciplined, even when distractions arise, is key. Willpower helps you overcome the difficult parts.Good HabitsPersistence becomes more manageable when it’s part of your daily routine. Building good habits trains your mind to keep going without overthinking it. The 16 Symptoms of a Lack of Persistence Here are 16 signs that show a lack of persistence and the deeper reasons behind them. Be honest with yourself about this list. If you want to find out what you’re capable of and go after what you want, these are the challenges you’ll need to work on. Lack of Clear GoalsIt’s easy to give up if you're unsure of your goals. Goals give you direction and purpose.ProcrastinationPutting things off until tomorrow often means they don’t get done. Action is key to progress. As Nike says, “Just Do It!”Fear of CriticismWorrying about what others think can stop you from trying. Confidence grows when you focus on your path.IndecisionHesitating too long to make choices can cause missed opportunities. Decisiveness builds momentum.Relying on ExcusesMaking excuses holds you back. Taking responsibility for your actions leads to growth.Lack of DisciplineWithout self-control, it’s easy to stray from your goals. Discipline helps you stay on track.Weak DesiresIf you don’t honestly want something, you won’t work hard for it. Strong desires fuel persistence.Giving Up Too SoonQuitting at the first sign of trouble means you never see what’s possible. Pushing through challenges builds resilience.Lack of EffortSuccess takes hard work. Period! Half-hearted attempts rarely lead to lasting results.Not Learning from MistakesRepeating the same errors shows a lack of growth. Mistakes are opportunities to improve. As the saying goes, "Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity."Fear of FailureBeing afraid to fail can prevent you from starting. However, failure is simply a stepping stone on the journey to success.Unwillingness to ChangeSticking to what’s comfortable prevents progress. Growth requires trying new things.Poor PlanningWithout a clear plan, it’s easy to feel lost. Planning gives you a roadmap to follow. I use an acronym, O.P.E. “O” stands for organize. I get whatever I need to in an orderly fashion, such as files, data or whatever. “P” stands for Plan. Then, I go over what I have organized and make a plan. “E” is Execute. Put my plan into action. Blaming OthersShifting responsibility to others keeps you stuck. Taking ownership of your journey empowers you.Lack of EnthusiasmWithout excitement for your goals, persistence fades. Passion helps you keep going.Not Surrounding Yourself with SupportGoing it alone can be challenging. Having a team of cheerleaders keeps you motivated and accountable. Overcoming the Fear of Criticism: A Barrier to Persistence ...
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    19 mins
  • How the 1% Rule Can Make You Question Everything About Success

    How the 1% Rule Can Make You Question Everything About Success
    Jan 2 2025
    How the 1% Rule Can Make You Question Everything About Success Key Points What Does Consistency Mean?The Benefits of Being ConsistentWhy Is It Hard to Stay Consistent?Self-Sabotage: Causes How to Overcome Self-SabotageConsistency in a Relationship with Your KidsConsistency in a Relationship with Your PartnerConclusion: Why Consistency is the Key to Success What Does Consistency Mean? Consistency is about being dependable and regular in your actions, thoughts, and decisions. It means doing things the same way over time, with predictability and reliability. When you're consistent, you build trust in yourself. Think of consistency like planting seeds. You don't just plant them once and forget about them—you water them regularly, nurture them, and give them time to grow. Consistency is what you do to reach your goals, even when life gets busy and demanding. The Benefits of Being Consistent Consistency offers numerous benefits. Here are 5 of the main ones: Builds Trust: People know they can count on you when you're consistent. Consistency helps build trust with your kids, partner, or friends. Trust is super important in any good relationship.Creates Stability: Being consistent makes life feel more steady. It keeps you focused and calm, even when things get complicated.It Encourages Self-Discipline. Staying consistent means sticking to your plans, even when you don't feel like it. Consistency helps you develop self-discipline, which is key to reaching big goals.Leads to Better Results: Small, steady efforts add up over time. Whether you're getting healthier, advancing at work, or strengthening a relationship, consistency helps you keep improving. Have you heard of the compound effect or the 1% rule? It's a simple but powerful concept: you can achieve massive results over time by making minor, daily improvements. Even though 1% might seem like a tiny change, those little improvements add up when you consistently build on them. By the end of the year, you'll have made a 365% improvement—meaning you've effectively grown your effort nearly 37 times! This 1% rule shows consistency can lead to incredible progress, even in small steps.Reduces Stress: When you're consistent, you know what to expect. Consistency reduces the stress that comes from uncertainty or last-minute changes. Why Is It Hard to Stay Consistent? Staying consistent sounds simple, but life often throws challenges that make it difficult. Understanding the common reasons for inconsistency can help you address them and get back on track. 1. Not Having Clear Goals It's easy to lose focus when you don't have clear goals. You feel like you're all over the place or unsure why you're even trying. 2. Perfectionism The desire to do things perfectly can stop you from doing them. If you feel like you're not doing something "right," you will likely give up entirely. 3. Lack of Motivation Motivation comes and goes. It can be hard to keep going when the initial excitement fades, especially when the results aren't immediate, like losing weight or working on your finances. Build habits instead of relying on motivation. Habits make actions automatic, so you don't need to rely on how you feel in the moment. A great book on building habits is Atomic Habits by James Clear. 4. Trying to Do Too MuchWhen you take on too many things at once, it can feel like too much to handle. Balancing work, family, and personal goals can make it hard to stick with anything. 5. Getting DistractedSo many things can distract us, like social media or surprise events, making it challenging to stay on track. Instead, set yourself up for success. Turn off notifications when you need to focus or create a specific space to work on important tasks. 6. Being Afraid to Mess Up Some people believe we should avoid failure at all costs, but I believe failure is one of the most important experiences we can have. It's okay to fail because it teaches valuable lessons and helps us grow. Instead of fearing failure, we should embrace it and use it as an opportunity to learn and improve. When we fail, it doesn't mean we've given up—it means we're learning how to keep going and get better. 7. No One to Keep You on TrackIt's easy to forget your plans when no one checks in on you. Having someone to share your goals with can help. Self-Sabotage: Causes Self-sabotage occurs when your actions or lack of actions interfere with your goals. It's not just about being distracted by outside things; it's also about the thoughts or habits that prevent you from progressing. Fear of SuccessSometimes, reaching your goal can feel scary. You might worry about the changes or extra responsibilities that come with success. It can feel easier to stay where you are instead of moving forward. Low Self-WorthIf you don't believe you deserve success, you might unconsciously avoid taking the steps needed to achieve it. Low self-worth manifests as procrastination, perfectionism, or deliberately undermining your ...
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    17 mins
  • The Fear Factor: How to Transform Fear Into Fuel For Success 2025

    The Fear Factor: How to Transform Fear Into Fuel For Success 2025
    Dec 26 2024
    The Fear Factor: How to Transform Fear Into Fuel For Success 2025 Key Points What Is Fear?Types of FearsAcronym for FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real)The Fear FactorHow to Transform Fear Into Fuel For Success 2025 What Is Fear? Fear is a natural emotion that everyone experiences. It appears when we face something new, unknown, or potentially dangerous. Emotions run deep within us, and sometimes they feel so powerful that we think we won’t make it through if we face them. So, we push them down or try to ignore them—until they build up and burst out, causing harm to ourselves and others. Think of yourself as a lighthouse. Your emotions, for example, fear, are like the waves crashing below. Some are small ripples, small fears, and others are huge and stormy, but the lighthouse stands strong, shining its light through it all. You might feel the impact of those waves, but you are steady, bright, and more powerful than the storms around you. Fear protects us but also holds us back, especially when we perceive things as scarier than they truly are. Understanding fear and learning how to manage it is a skill that can benefit both you and your kids. Also, fear is an emotional response to a real or perceived threat. It’s like an alarm system in our brains, alerting us to danger. When we feel fear, our bodies react by sweating, our hearts might race, or we might feel like running away. It is called the "fight, flight, or freeze" response, and it’s our body’s way of keeping us safe. However, not all our fears are about actual danger. Some are about things we worry might happen or situations that make us feel unsure of ourselves, such as reaching for our hopes and dreams. What is one hope or dream you have for 2025? Put it in the comments. Types of Fears Not all fears are the same. Here are the main types: Physical Fears: These fears are concerns about safety, such as health risks or physical challenges.Emotional Fears: Such as worries tied to feelings like fear of rejection, failure, or disappointment.Social Fears: These are fears about being judged, fitting in, or speaking up.Imaginary Fears: Fear of things that aren’t real or are unlikely to happen. By identifying the type of fear, you can take steps to address it more effectively. Put in the comments your biggest fear! I’ll be sharing mine later in the episode. Acronym for FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) The common acronym for fear is False Evidence Appearing Real, but here is another one I am using this year by Zig Zigler, Face Everything And Rise. I am modifying that one by adding up to Rise, Face Everything And Riseup. This simple reminder encourages me to tackle challenges head-on. When I change my mindset, it isn’t about being fearless—it’s about acting despite my fears. The Fear Factor Here’s the thing: fear is the biggest obstacle to achieving our goals. It whispers, “Cathy, You can’t do this,” or “What if you fail?” But the truth is that growth only happens when we step outside our comfort zones. By facing our fears, we aren’t just opening the door to personal success—we’re setting a powerful example for the people around us, inspiring them to do the same, especially our children and grandchildren. Be that inspiration! This time of year, we are inundated with weight loss ads, SMART goal setting and motivational affirmations to help us reach our goals. This year, I am listing my fears to Face Everything and Riseup. Here are my top 5 fears I want to face this year: I want to get in front of the camera and not hide behind my microphone. To do this, I want to have guests for my podcast. In a couple of weeks, I will be recording video and audio with a dear friend, a fellow podcaster and author, about setting goals for the year. I was going just to use the audio, but I will upload both. What’s the worst that can happen? People make negative comments about my looks. Who cares. That reflects them, and their words will not stop me. They are just words!! Face Everything And Riseup! I am travelling solo. I thought I was going to Phoenix, Arizona, in February to accept my children’s book award, but the tickets are sold out. That will not stop me from travelling somewhere in 2025 by myself. I haven’t travelled solo in over five years. What am I fearing about it? My thoughts are, Cathy, you are nearing seventy. What if you have a medical emergency and you don’t have family? I know The Universe has my back. Face Everything And Riseup! Trusting my instincts because my instincts never fail me. This ties in with mindfulness. Too often, I have not trusted my instincts and listened to others, only to be mad at myself for not listening to my intuition. I remember this one time; in particular, I was heading out the door to go somewhere and heard that small voice saying, take your camera. It was sitting right there on the chair in front of me. My thought was, why do I need it? I couldn’t think of a ...
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    19 mins
  • Joy to the World, But First Coffee: A Happiness Survival Guide

    Joy to the World, But First Coffee: A Happiness Survival Guide
    Dec 19 2024
    Joy to the World, But First Coffee: A Happiness Survival Guide Key Points: Happiness Definition: An Emotion, Not a DestinationHappiness vs. JoyHappiness Is a State of MindHappiness During the HolidaysHappiness When You’re Alone During the HolidaysTeach Children Happines by Modelling It Yourself Happiness Definition: An Emotion, Not a Destination Happiness is a feeling of contentment, joy, or satisfaction that comes from within. It’s not just about big, exciting moments—it can also be found in the little things, like sharing a laugh, enjoying a good meal, or spending time with loved ones. While happiness often feels like it depends on what’s happening around us, it’s more about how we experience and respond to life. It’s a mix of positive emotions and a sense of purpose that makes life meaningful and enjoyable. Also, happiness is an emotion, not a permanent state of being. It’s fleeting, like joy, excitement, or even sadness. While we often strive to "be happy," it's important to recognize that happiness naturally ebbs and flows. By letting go of the idea that we should always feel happy, we give ourselves the freedom to enjoy it when it’s there and work on creating the conditions for it to return. Happiness vs. Joy You might wonder: aren’t happiness and joy the same thing? Not exactly. Happiness is often tied to external circumstances—a kind word, a fun outing, or a special moment. Joy, on the other hand, is deeper. It’s a sense of contentment and peace that can exist even when life isn’t perfect. To find happiness during the holidays and beyond, focus on cultivating joy. Find meaning in your relationships, purpose in your actions, and peace in your heart. Happiness will follow. Happiness Is a State of Mind Have you ever noticed how some people seem happy no matter what’s happening around them? That’s because happiness is a mindset. While life will always throw challenges our way, how we perceive and respond to those challenges can make all the difference. We can cultivate a happier and more resilient outlook by shifting our thoughts, habits, and attitudes. Here’s how: Reframe Challenges Instead of seeing obstacles as roadblocks, view them as opportunities to grow. Ask yourself: What can I learn from this? How can I come out stronger? Reframing doesn’t erase the difficulty but allows you to focus on progress rather than setbacks. Surround Yourself with Positivity Your environment has a significant impact on your mindset. Choose to spend time with people who inspire, encourage, and uplift you. Limit interactions with those who consistently bring negativity. Surround yourself with reminders of what brings you joy—photos, favourite books, or meaningful quotes. "Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy." – Ralph Marston. Practice Self-Compassion It’s easy to be our own worst critic, but self-criticism often fuels unhappiness. Instead, treat yourself as you would a dear friend—with kindness, patience, and understanding. Acknowledge your efforts, even if the outcome isn’t perfect. Set Intentions Daily Start your day by choosing a positive focus. Setting an intention can anchor your thoughts, whether you find moments of gratitude, stay calm in stressful situations, or simply appreciate the beauty around you. Focus on What You Can Control Happiness often suffers when we fixate on things outside our control. Instead, shift your energy toward what you can influence—your attitude, actions, and reactions. This mindset helps you feel empowered rather than helpless. Celebrate Small Wins Don’t wait for big milestones to feel happy. Instead, celebrate the little victories, like finishing a task, solving a problem, or even taking time to rest. Recognizing small successes creates a positive ripple effect throughout your day. Engage in Activities That Bring You Happiness Carve out time for hobbies and interests that make you happy, whether reading, cooking, gardening, or simply spending time outdoors. These activities recharge your emotional batteries and contribute to a positive state of mind. Practice Gratitude Daily Gratitude is a powerful happiness booster. Reflect on what you’re thankful for each day, no matter how small. Keeping a gratitude journal can help train your brain to focus on the positives in life. Limit Comparison The quickest way to feel unhappy is by comparing yourself to others. Social media often amplifies this, presenting a curated version of people’s lives. Remind yourself that everyone has struggles, and your journey is uniquely yours. Embrace Imperfection Happiness doesn’t require everything to be perfect. Perfectionism can rob you of joy. Embrace life's messy, unpredictable nature, and find humour or gratitude in the imperfections. Move Your Body Exercise is a natural mood booster. Physical activity releases endorphins, reduces stress, and improves overall well-being. You don’t need to run ...
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    19 mins
  • Mindfulness Meaning: How to Survive Life Without Hiding in the Bathroom

    Mindfulness Meaning: How to Survive Life Without Hiding in the Bathroom
    Dec 12 2024
    Mindfulness Meaning: How to Survive Life Without Hiding in the Bathroom Key Points Mindfulness MeaningThe Benefits of MindfulnessIncorporating Mindfulness into Your Daily LifeHow to Teach Mindfulness to Your Kids Mindfulness Meaning: Mindfulness is about being fully present and engaged in the moment—no distractions or judgment. It’s about tuning into your thoughts, emotions, and surroundings with an open mind instead of letting your brain spiral into past regrets or future worries. Thich Nhat Hanh, a beloved mindfulness teacher, describes mindfulness as “the energy of being aware and awake to the present moment.” He teaches that when we’re truly present, we can experience life as it is without getting caught up in the rush of the future or the weight of the past. In short, mindfulness is the opposite of the “I’ll do this later” mentality we all fall into from time to time. It’s about being right here, right now. Mindfulness is not about emptying your mind or escaping your emotions. It’s not a quick fix or a way to avoid life's challenges. Mindfulness isn’t about controlling everything around you but finding peace and clarity in the moment, no matter what that moment holds. For parents, mindfulness can be a total game-changer. It’s not about trying to be perfect or overhauling your entire lifestyle. It’s about becoming more aware and intentional with your time—especially when it comes to the moments that matter most with your family. As Thich Nhat Hanh teaches, every moment is an opportunity to practice mindfulness, even in the busiest times. So why not make those moments count? The Benefits of Mindfulness Mindfulness isn’t just a trend—it’s a powerful tool that can boost your mind and body. By weaving mindfulness into your daily routine, you’ll notice a shift in handling stress, connecting with your kids, and taking care of yourself. It’s like finding the secret ingredient to a more balanced, calm, and fulfilling life—where you’re not just surviving the day but truly thriving in it. Here are just a few of the many benefits: Reduced Stress and Anxiety: Mindfulness helps calm your mind, allowing you to manage stress more effectively and respond thoughtfully rather than emotionally in challenging situations.Improved Emotional Regulation: Mindfulness increases self-awareness, helping you better understand and manage your emotions. Mindfulness leads to more patience and calmness in your interactions with your kids.Better Physical Health: Research shows that mindfulness can lower blood pressure, boost your immune system, and reduce the risk of chronic illnesses, helping you stay healthy and energized.Reconnecting Mind and Body: Mindfulness encourages you to listen to your body’s signals, promoting a stronger connection between your mind and body and helping you address physical and emotional needs.Reduced Pain and Slowing the Aging Process: Mindfulness can reduce chronic pain by promoting relaxation, and its stress-relieving effects can slow the aging process by fostering overall well-being.Making Better Decisions and Understanding Your Emotions: Mindfulness clears mental clutter, allowing you to make more thoughtful decisions and respond with greater clarity and emotional understanding. Incorporating Mindfulness into Your Daily Life Incorporating mindfulness into your day doesn't need to be complicated—it can be simple, fun, and even a little playful. As Thich Nhat Hanh says, "When you breathe in, you are alive. When you breathe out, you smile." Mindfulness is about slowing down and appreciating the moment, so why not make it a part of your everyday life? Here are a few easy ways to do just that: Mindful Breathing: Take a few minutes each day to focus on your breath—it’s like hitting the pause button on your mind. Try this: breathe in slowly through your nose, hold for a moment, then exhale through your mouth. Think of it like humming the tune of your favourite calming song—nice and slow, with a rhythm that resets your brain and clears away stress. Just like a song can lift your mood, mindful breathing can leave you feeling refreshed and centred!f you need more motivation, studies show that mindful breathing can lower your stress levels by up to 40%. So, take a breather—literally!Mindful Eating: Forget scarfing down your lunch while scrolling through your phone. Mindful eating means truly savouring each bite. Pay attention to the taste, texture, and smell of your food. Mindful eating will make your meals more enjoyable and teach your kids to appreciate their food (and maybe even ask for broccoli without a battle).Mindful Listening: When your kids talk, give them your full attention. I know it’s hard with all the distractions (and the fact that your mind is already racing with ten other things you need to do). But listen actively—don’t interrupt, don’t multitask, and don’t offer advice right away. Active listening shows respect for their ...
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    19 mins
  • Struggling to Sleep? 9 Vital Tips Every Parent Must Know

    Struggling to Sleep? 9 Vital Tips Every Parent Must Know
    Dec 5 2024
    Struggling to Sleep? 9 Vital Tips Every Parent Must Know "A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything." – Irish Proverb Key Points The Benefits of a Good Night’s SleepHow Much Sleep Do We Really Need?The Role of a Sleep-Friendly Environment9 Vital Tips for Creating a Bedtime Routine for Yourself and Your KidsWhy Consistency Matters in Sleep, Especially for Kids The Benefits of a Good Night’s Sleep A good night’s sleep isn’t just about avoiding feeling tired—it helps our bodies and minds work their best. Sleep keeps us healthy, strong, and ready to handle whatever the day brings. For parents, getting enough sleep helps in many ways: Improves Memory and Focus: Sleep gives your brain time to organize and store information, making it easier to remember things and stay sharp during the day. Helps Handle Emotions: When you sleep well, staying calm and dealing with stress is easier. Not getting enough sleep can leave you feeling irritable and stressed. Boosts Your Immune System: Sleep helps your body fight off sickness. With enough rest, staying healthy is easier. Keeps You Energetic: Getting quality sleep gives your body the energy to remain active and accomplish tasks effectively during the day. Kids grow, learn, and explore daily, making sleep even more critical. Here’s how sleep helps children: Manages Emotions and Behavior: Well-rested kids are better at staying calm, sharing, and handling challenges. Tired kids get cranky, frustrate easily, or have more meltdowns. Improves Focus and Learning: Sleep gives kids the brainpower to focus in class and understand new things. A tired brain finds it challenging to concentrate. Supports Growth and Development: Sleep is when the body grows a lot! From building strong muscles to developing the brain, kids need plenty of rest to stay on track. Helps Stay Healthy: A full night’s sleep strengthens the immune system, so kids are better at fighting colds and other illnesses. Getting enough sleep is like charging a battery—it keeps kids and parents powered up and ready for their best days! So, how much sleep do we need? How Much Sleep Do We Really Need? Everyone needs sleep, but how much depends on your age and stage of life. The National Sleep Foundation gives helpful guidelines to know how much rest is best: Preschoolers (3–5 years): 10–13 Hours a Night Preschoolers are little bundles of energy, always on the move! They need plenty of sleep to support their rapid growth and endless curiosity. Sleep helps them recharge so they can run, play, and explore the world around them. School-Age Children (6–13 years): 9–11 Hours a Night Once kids start school, sleep becomes even more critical. Their days are filled with learning, playing sports, and making new friends, all of which take energy and focus. A well-rested brain helps them pay attention in class, solve problems, and handle challenges. When kids this age don’t get enough sleep, they struggle with mood swings or have trouble keeping up with schoolwork. Teenagers (14–17 years): 8–10 Hours a Night Teenagers might seem like they don’t need as much sleep, but they do! Their bodies and minds are undergoing tremendous changes, and sleep helps. Rest gives teens the energy to manage school, extracurricular activities, and social life. It also helps them deal with stress and build healthy habits. Teens who don’t get enough sleep feel more tired, struggle with focus, and may even feel more emotional or stressed. Parents: 7–9 Hours a Night Parents need less sleep than kids, but getting enough is still essential. Sleep helps parents stay sharp, make good decisions, and strengthen their immune systems. A full night’s sleep also gives parents the energy to balance work, family, and other responsibilities. Skipping sleep can lead to feeling drained, forgetful, or even getting sick more often. Having the right setting can make all the difference. The Role of a Sleep-Friendly Environment It’s important to create a calm and cozy bedroom for restful sleep by: Keeping it Cool: A slightly cooler room temperature (around 65°F or 18°C) is ideal.Dimming the Lights: Darkness signals the body to produce melatonin, the sleep hormone. Consider blackout curtains or a soft nightlight if needed.Minimizing Noise: Use white noise machines or fans to block out disruptive sounds.Comfort First: Ensure mattresses and pillows are comfortable and supportive.Decluttering: A tidy room promotes a sense of calm and relaxation. Now that your bedroom is set up as a sleep sanctuary, it’s time to focus on what happens before you even crawl under the covers. A consistent bedtime routine is the key to transitioning smoothly from the busyness of the day to a state of calm relaxation. 9 Vital Tips for Creating a Bedtime Routine for Yourself and Your Kids A solid bedtime routine is the secret ingredient to smoother evenings and more restful nights. I follow the 10-3-2-1-0 rule to establish...
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  • How to Set Healthy Boundaries With Your Ex During Holiday Break

    How to Set Healthy Boundaries With Your Ex During Holiday Break
    Nov 28 2024
    How to Set Healthy Boundaries With Your Ex During Holiday Break Key Points: What Are Boundaries? 5 Types of Boundaries for Everyday Living How to Set Healthy Boundaries With Your Ex During Holiday Break What to Say When Someone Pushes Back on Holiday Boundaries What to Do When Your Boundaries Are Ignored “Holidays are a time for family, but that doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your peace of mind.” – Unknown What Are Boundaries? Boundaries are about setting clear expectations to create a joyful and respectful atmosphere for everyone, especially during the holidays. They make a safe and loving space where everyone knows the rules and encourages respect, understanding, and open communication. What boundaries are not is a means to be selfish, brutally honest, or rude. Also, boundaries aren’t about being rigid, unkind, or controlling. Boundaries during holidays act as guides, helping you preserve the magic of the holidays while respecting everyone’s needs. They create clarity, reduce stress, and allow you to focus on what truly matters—cherished moments with loved ones. 5 Types of Boundaries for Everyday Living Boundaries are essential for creating balance and fostering healthy relationships in daily life. Here are some key types: Physical BoundariesThese involve personal space and physical touch. For example, you can tell others if you’re uncomfortable with hugs or need time alone after work. This is especially important with your kids. If they feel uncomfortable hugging a particular relative, then respect their boundaries. By respecting their boundaries, you are helping them say no later in life.Emotional BoundariesEmotional boundaries protect your feelings. This can include asking for time to process emotions or declining to discuss sensitive topics when you're not ready. During the holidays, we all have so much on our minds. If you need to take a few minutes to unwind, everyone will be better off. Time BoundariesTime boundaries help you manage how you use your time. For instance, you can limit how long you spend at your in-laws or holiday parties for self-care.Communication BoundariesThese focus on how you interact with others. Examples include asking for respectful language during disagreements or requesting that specific conversations occur in private.Material BoundariesThese involve your possessions and finances. For example, you may decide not to lend items you value highly or set limits on spending within a shared budget. This boundary is helpful for your little ones who don’t want to share their new toy. How to Set Healthy Boundaries With Your Ex During Holiday Break The holidays can bring unique challenges, especially when navigating family dynamics, including ex-partners. Setting boundaries helps ensure you can enjoy the season peacefully. Schedule BoundariesThe holidays often come with competing commitments. For example, if you're co-parenting with an ex, establish an explicit schedule for sharing time with the kids. "The children will spend Christmas Eve with me and Christmas Day with you. We’ll switch next year to keep things fair." Scheduling holidays prevents last-minute stress and ensures the kids feel loved by both parents. Depending on the ex's behaviour, it is essential to have it in writing to avoid confusion later or if “I don’t remember saying that.” Emotional BoundariesEmotions can run high during the holidays, particularly in blended families. It’s okay to set limits on specific topics. For instance, "I’d appreciate it if we keep our conversations focused on the kids and holiday logistics rather than rehashing old arguments." Setting limits on specific topics maintains a positive atmosphere for everyone involved.Gift-Giving BoundariesFinancial strain or differing ideas about gift-giving can be a significant source of tension with an ex-partner. Communicating is vital: "Let’s agree on a budget for the kids’ gifts so they don’t feel overwhelmed or get duplicate presents." A budget sets expectations and prevents unnecessary competition. If your ex disrespects a gift-giving boundary, it can feel frustrating, but there are ways to handle it calmly and effectively while maintaining the spirit of the holidays: Start by acknowledging what happened without assigning blame. Example:“I noticed the gifts you gave the kids were outside the budget we agreed on. I want to talk about this because sticking to the budget is important for everyone.” Remind them that the boundary was set to benefit everyone. Example:“The budget wasn’t just about finances; it was about keeping things simple so the kids don’t feel overwhelmed or compare gifts.” Share how the situation affected you, using “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. Example:“I felt disappointed because I thought we had a shared understanding. It made me worry about how the kids might react or feel.” Focus on preventing similar issues in the future rather than ...
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    16 mins
  • How I Found Joy By Discovering My Life's Purpose

    How I Found Joy By Discovering My Life's Purpose
    Nov 21 2024
    How I Found Joy by Finding My Life's Purpose What You Will Learn in This Episode: What is the Meaning of Joy? Joy vs. Gratitude Why is Joy Important? How I Found Joy By Finding My Life’s Purpose 7 Steps to Find Your Life’s Purpose What to Do When Joy Feels Far Away What is the Meaning of Joy? Joy is a feeling of deep happiness and contentment. It’s more than just laughing at a funny joke or smiling when something nice happens. Joy is a warm, uplifting emotion from within, no matter what’s happening around you. It’s a spark in your soul that keeps glowing, even when life gets tough. Joy is a deep emotion that often arises naturally and unexpectedly. For example, you might feel joy seeing a loved one after a long time, hearing your favourite song, or achieving something meaningful. This kind of joy is something you feel in the moment, often without any effort. Joy can also be something you choose to cultivate. It becomes an action when you intentionally focus on finding joy—through gratitude, kindness, or pursuing activities that make you happy. Sharing joy with others, like spreading laughter, helping someone in need, or creating a positive environment, is another way to make joy an active part of your life. So, joy is both a state of being (feeling) and a way of living (action). When we treat it as both, we can experience it more fully and share it meaningfully. Joy vs. Gratitude Joy and gratitude often go hand in hand, but they’re not the same. Gratitude is feeling thankful for something specific, like a kind word from a friend or a beautiful sunset. Joy, on the other hand, is more significant and broader. Joy is the sense of being happy just to be alive, even if nothing important has happened. Gratitude can lead to joy, but joy is about your whole outlook on life. Why is Joy Important? Feeling joy isn’t just a nice feeling —it’s healthy, too! Joy can: Boosts Energy: Joyful people often feel more active and excited about life.Improves Relationships: When you share joy, it brings people closer together.Helps You Stay Strong: Joy can help you handle tough times better. How I Found Joy By Finding My Life’s Purpose Joy and purpose are deeply connected. Living purposefully means doing meaningful things that align with your values. Living with purpose creates a foundation for lasting joy because you’re not just chasing fleeting moments of happiness—you’re building a life that feels fulfilling. Finding purpose often means discovering what truly matters to you, whether helping others, creating something beautiful, or simply making the world a little brighter. When you act purposefully, joy follows naturally, like a spark igniting a flame. Purpose isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress. When you live with intention, joy becomes a constant companion, reminding you that life is not just about what you achieve but how you grow along the way. Here is an example from my personal life. I signed up for coaching with a business coach a couple of years ago. It was the last session, and we discussed my next steps. As I started talking to share my deepest desire, uncontrollable tears welled in my eyes as I tried to get out the words: “I want to write my children’s books.” For ten years, this was a yearning deep within my soul. I wanted to write books to help children with low self-esteem issues because my emotionally abusive mother destroyed mine. It was a pivotal moment for me and my coach. I had this yearning but didn’t act on it because I believed I didn’t have the financial resources. How do you write a children’s book and find an illustrator? But I truly believed my children’s books were my purpose in life. I didn’t let fear get in my way and began the process. Finding an illustrator was the most challenging and costly aspect of publishing my books. But I persevered, knowing that all these challenges were leading me to my goal of being a published author.I am excited to share that I now have four children’s books in my series, Lessons for Life With Gramma Kate, listed on my website, parentingyoungsters.com. They sell on Amazon, or you can have your local bookstore order them through Ingramsparks. Each book is a life lesson for children aged 6 to 12. When discussing my children's books, people tell me my face changes and brightens with excitement. That is joy filling my body. But what if you haven’t found your purpose yet? 7 Steps to Find Your Life’s Purpose Finding your purpose in life can feel overwhelming, especially if you’re unsure where to start. Purpose isn’t always obvious—it’s often uncovered through reflection, experimentation, and growth. If you haven’t discovered what drives you yet, don’t worry. Here are seven steps to help guide you on the journey to finding your purpose: 1. Reflect on What Brings You Joy Start by asking yourself what makes you feel happy and fulfilled. Think about moments when you’ve ...
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