In this powerful episode, Martha sits down with Lori Sugarman Lee; Fair Play Facilitator, family coach, and author of Our Home: The Love, Work, and Heart of Family. They talk about the often invisible and undervalued labor that keeps households running. Lori shares the story behind her children’s book, a beautiful tool designed to spark conversations about equity, contribution, and care within families.

The conversation dives deep into Lori’s journey from a career in marketing to full-time caregiving, the culture shock of moving from Canada’s year-long parental leave to the U.S., and a pivotal moment when an insurance rep dismissed her value as “just a housewife.” That experience sparked Lori’s mission to reframe domestic labor as essential, valuable, and worthy of pride...not just for women, but for the entire family unit.

Martha and Lori explore why picture books remain powerful conversation starters at any age, how family values and neurodiverse needs shape household dynamics, and how shifting our language, from "chores" and "helping" to "contributing" and "trusting"...can create a more equitable, empowering home. They also touch on real-life strategies for fostering independence, using Fair Play with kids, and embracing imperfection along the way.

Whether you're a parent, caregiver, educator, or someone rethinking how your household runs, this episode is a must-listen reminder that the heart of home deserves to be seen, shared, and celebrated.

Connect with Lori:

• Instagram: @ourhomeourpride

• LinkedIn: Lori Sugarman Lee

• Book: Our Home – Available wherever books are sold

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In this episode, I break down how I support myself before, during, and after traveling for work—especially when attending conferences. Fresh off a recent trip, I’m sharing what helps me not just survive professional development experiences, but actually enjoy them, get what I need from them, and avoid total burnout.

As someone with ADHD who used to lead professional development for others, I’ve picked up a lot of tools along the way. Whether it’s how I prep for travel, navigate sensory overload, or build in recovery time, this episode is full of real-life strategies for taking care of your future self.

What I cover:

🧳 Before care: prepping my body, mind, and bags (hydration, nutrition, sleep, CBD, packing tips)

👟 During care: finding quiet spaces, managing sensory overload, intentional socializing, and planned solo time

✈️ After care: the power of a buffer day, post-conference processing, and setting yourself up for a smoother re-entry into everyday life

If you’ve ever come home from a work trip feeling totally fried (and like you didn’t retain anything), this one’s for you.

Who this episode is for:

Folks with ADHD who travel for work

Anyone feeling overstimulated by conferences or networking

People looking to actually get something out of professional development

Money can feel overwhelming, especially when you have ADHD. In this episode, I sit down with my longtime friend and money coach, Keina Newell of Wealth Over Now, to talk about how we can break free from shame, make peace with our spending, and build a future that supports our needs—without giving up the things that bring us joy.

We explore:
Why thinking about "future you" is so hard with ADHD
The role of shame in financial decision-making
Practical steps to start managing money without overwhelm
How small, messy progress is better than waiting for the "perfect" time

Keina shares how she helped me shift my mindset and create financial habits that actually work for my ADHD brain. Whether you've struggled with budgeting, impulsive spending, or just avoiding money talk altogether, this episode will leave you feeling empowered to take action—one step at a time.

Listen now and start taking control of your money without the drama!

In this episode, Martha Hoffman speaks with Paige Connell, a working mom of four and a content creator who explores critical topics like the mental load in parenthood, domestic inequities, and systemic challenges such as affordable childcare and paid parental leave. They dive into the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals and families, including how ADHD impacts domestic dynamics and parenting.

Martha and Paige share personal stories, thoughtful strategies, and valuable insights on navigating household responsibilities with equity—not equality. They discuss how to support without enabling, redefine productivity and rest, and create healthy, sustainable family dynamics. If you're a parent, partner, or anyone seeking practical advice on domestic balance, this conversation offers both compassion and actionable wisdom.

In this episode, we explore the intersection of ADHD and the mental load in relationships, uncovering the hidden costs of imbalance and how societal norms often add to the strain. Drawing on years of teaching experience, we discuss strategies to engage interest-based brains and tackle resistant behaviors—whether with middle schoolers or partners.

We dive into how gamifying emotional labor can help ADHD brains build lasting habits, why unlearning outdated gender roles is crucial, and the difference between skill and will when addressing mental load challenges. This conversation is packed with practical tools and real-life examples for anyone navigating ADHD or seeking balance in their partnerships.

Whether you're managing ADHD in your own life, supporting a partner with ADHD, or striving for a more equitable division of labor, this episode offers insights to help you take the next step.

I can’t believe it took me 10 episodes to talk about Fair Play! This system, based on Eve Rodsky’s book, has been a game changer for my family and my work. In this episode, I break down how the Fair Play Method helps partners create more equitable systems for managing home and family life—especially when ADHD is part of the equation.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• Why equity (not equality) is the key to sharing responsibilities in a way that works for both partners.
• How Fair Play’s design naturally supports ADHDers with structure, ownership, and clear communication.
• The importance of carving out time for personal passions, aka your "unicorn space."
• The four ground rules that guide Fair Play and why they matter.
• How societal norms around time, work, and caregiving contribute to burnout—and what we can do to unlearn them.

I also share my personal journey of moving from burnout to a more balanced system with my partner, plus practical tips for starting where you are and figuring out what matters most to your family.

🎧 Tune in now and start building a more equitable home life.

In this episode, I sit down with my 12-year-old friend to chat about our favorite books, the joy of discovering stories, and how reading can be an incredible way to connect with others. We explore everything from fantasy series like Aru Shah to the emotional depth of Remarkably Bright Creatures. Along the way, we share tips for finding books you’ll love—even if you think you’re not a “reader.”

If you’re looking for book recommendations for kids, adults, or families to enjoy together, this episode is packed with inspiration. Plus, we discuss the value of trying new genres, using audiobooks to hook reluctant readers, and how trusting relationships can guide reading choices.

Books mentioned include:

• The Aru Shah Series by Roshani Chokshi
• Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir
• Children of the Fox Series by Kevin Sands
• Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt
• Life of Pi by Yann Martel

Whether you’re a book lover or someone searching for the perfect gateway read, this episode will leave you with plenty of ideas and a reminder that the right book can make all the difference.

Tune in, grab a cup of tea, and let’s talk books!

In this special episode, I sit down with an extraordinary 12-year-old with ADHD who shares his unique perspective on navigating school, friendships, and life. From hoverboarding during Zoom calls to rocking in class to focus, he sheds light on what helps him thrive and what he wishes teachers and classmates understood about ADHD. Join us as we explore everything from managing boredom to finding dopamine boosts in daily life. His insights will make you laugh, reflect, and maybe even rethink ADHD. This episode is perfect for anyone wanting an honest look at ADHD through the eyes of a child!